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Proof of Love Ep. 7 Tantric Sex with Ben Tantra Punk Rebroadcast TPP193


Ben Tantra Punk PicIn this episode I share a rebroadcast of my interview on the Proof of Love podcast, below is the original show notes, please subscribe to Proof of Love!

What can one say about a crypto tantric episode other than wow.  This is our spiciest Proof of Love yet! Ben Tantra Punk joined Stephanie and I to discuss this ancient practice.  In between a few laughs and blushes, we get a great overview of tantric lovemaking, how it’s different from regular lovemaking, the history of why there is tantric sex in the first place, and the joys of the female orgasm.  We went a bit over on time, but I don’t think you will mind with this subject matter! We need more love in our lives, and this episode will show you how to put some of these teachings into practice, even if calling each other goddess in bed is a little uncomfortable.

About the Guests:

Ben Tantra Punk is a sex worker, feminist porn performer, certified permaculture designer, certified tantric counselor, author, film maker, and recording artist. He’s found healing and empowerment through sacred loving arts, ecological gardening, shamanism, ecstatic trance dancing, martial arts, and open source technology. His ongoing independent short film series, Sexorcism the Tantric Opera, was launched in early 2017. It tells his story of recovery from childhood sexual trauma, adolescent sex trafficking, and the path of a wounded healer. His first book, Psychedelic Goddess Worship: Erotic Memoirs from the Astral Battlefield, is planned for release in late 2019.

He loves to help tantric seekers discover the infinite source of divine love from above, the eternal power and wisdom from the Earth below, and the bliss of conscious, healthy, diverse romantic relationships in between. He provides private coaching and counseling sessions online and in-person, and teaches publicly via livestream on the Ethereum powered SpankChain camsite at: https://beta.spankchain.com/TantraPunk His writings, music, podcasts, videos and contact info can be found at https://www.TantraPunk.com.

Do you have a burning question, or a show idea for us?  Please email us at tatiana@proofoflovecast.com!

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Tantra Punk your guide to sexual Liberation healing and empowerment as a certified Tantra counselor and certified permaculture designer I’m here to help you grow spiritually sexually and ecologically my online and in-person counseling sessions and training programs are price to fit any budget I’m looking forward to helping you design and ever more Divine Life Path please send me an email to Ben at Tantra Punk. Com and our journey together will begin podcast episode number 194 I am being joined by Brian s gross of BSG public relations and he is such a jaw-dropping about page I just decided I really do this but I decided I definitely want to read this to really put the context in here because with with it that the merging of the technology space in the adult industry space and actually to give a little bit of backstory on this we connected now it’s been about 4 years or so since first actually started putting out a press release and seeking really advisement and consult consultation within the the the pr companies within the adult industry to see if there was any possibility to get some traction doing this sort of shamanic pornography and feminist porn kind of brand that I’ve been trying to develop mixing my music and video production and ethics and politics into media and so I have really been kind of putting The Feelers out into the space and Brian gave me some feedback back in the day and we have serendipitously reconnected recently and so I thought why not let’s have a butt supposed to connect in in this podcast domain and again I’m astounded by what he’s accomplished in some of the parallels in our Journeys here so I’m just going to go ahead and read the about page and then we’ll get started with the interview so Jared is BSG public relations takes a precise and strategic approach to promoting all facets of entertainment and efficient and motivated staff handles everything from intricate details of executive with City to positioning our clientele within compelling and effective media campaigns Street marketing teams and Creative Marketing efforts BSG public relations handles all avenues of communication is bringing your study to approach to marketing media and public relations with Creative Solutions that furthers the message & image of our clients we handle everything from the intricate details of executive publicity to positioning clients with compelling media campaigns we look to broaden and brand artist companies and products multi-level publicity campaigns combined with knowledge and background in every facet of entertainment media and communication the most importantly always putting the client first Brian Gross president of BSG PR has been in the service of media and public relations for over 26 years gross has been employed by company said Steve American recordings Warner Brothers records reprise records Elektra Entertainment Group Vivid Entertainment Group and such organizations as the Lollapalooza tour Brian Gross was an executive producer for Rio TX the search for Adam and Eve his background includes all facets of public and media relations working with some of the largest businesses celebrities and music acts in the world Brian thank you so much for joining me on the podcast and please tell us all about your personal Journey how did you get into this position of such influence and expertise school is my senior year and I’m a I’m a big Sports person as well and I was not good enough to make the varsity basketball team but wound up helping out with the younger teams and I want to getting fired for verbally assaulting a referee who completely screwed up a game and all of a sudden I had free time and I literally took out my CD collection which I know that sounds so funny in this day and age but went through it and started calling record labels and pretty much got blown off by many of them because I was a senior in high school they were looking for college kids and one label an independent label def American the girl who answered the phone was in the PR department and she still one of my best friends to the stay cuz she called she I said come in for an interview and before I knew it I was driving after school three days a week from Newbury Park California to Burbank to make press kits and learn all about the music industry well that is exciting so what were some of the what what are some of the bands in an album is like what were you into at the time I was definitely a classic rock kid a NuWave and I just wasn’t you know I was sort of what the radio fed me so you know I hadn’t really branched out as far as my music likings were concerned and you know early 90s you know 90 to 91 92 you realize just how there was no such a divided because you know really popular stuff was extremely poppy you were on the end of sort of the metal era you had this grunge thing happening you had this sort of underground music thing happening you had punk rock obviously happening but I grew up in the suburbs and and it just didn’t resonate with me at the time you know then you go to a record label and you start going through the CDs and you just start this massive Discovery and bands walk in and you meet people and you spend time with artists and musicians and it just completely through open a world that I was you know I was aware but I wasn’t aware to that extent and it was pretty exciting to just see the variety especially at this specific record label the variety of of music that was being put out and and how exciting it was awesome so from there so what how to tell us the story of how you evolved from the doing stuff mostly in the music and more and more General entertainment business into the adult industry which I see you have a lot of accolades from so I I mean I work my way up in the record industry from 93 to 99 I I was took a couple internships than an assistant job than a West Coast tour tour publicist West Coast Regional tour publicist job and then I saw what Napster was doing and I realized you know as a as a low man on the totem pole in the satellite office for record label I better figure something out and literally fell in my lap where two people one of which had this specific that had this position and and the other was the brother of the owner of the company hit me up and said hey you know you should interview for this job that’s going to open up to be the head of PR and marketing for a company called Vivid which I was obviously very familiar with as a young male and so the money was a lot more and the opportunity was there and it was just one of those things I was 23 and I wasn’t going to say no I couldn’t pass it up so I became the head of PR and marketing for Vivid Entertainment in the spring of 99 while you were busy absorbing all of this until from the corporate world and very established Enterprises and then you’re building essentially what will become your your own personal company and brand can you tell us about some of the some of the lessons you learned some of the highlights of of your journey along that way if kind of building your own becoming an entrepreneur as opposed to an employee working for Stephen her she had a very hands-off approach you know he wanted me to practice the way I had learned doing publicity at the record labels and bring that same approach to the adult film stars that were under contract with this company and to the company itself so I really had this sort of open book of you no opportunities and and and really just publicizing a a massive brand his thing was don’t spend any money which you know you laugh at but it was pretty when you when you eliminate budgets and you have to be creative that’s that made you have to work relationships in and put ideas out there and look for opportunities that I think in this day and age we wouldn’t even think twice about it but at the time we’re pretty groundbreaking you know so you know what that in mind it just became abaa I learned so much from that that when I went on my own I took sort of his entrepreneurship of run Dino of starting and running a massive adult entertainment company with what I learned is being a publicist and I’m just sort of found my way I had some incredible mentors the forest publicist go ahead incredible mentors who you know I went to when I started my company said how to what am I doing how do I do this you know and they were so giving and and so just easy you know so open Armon and I’m just taught me so much in a really short. Of time to where I was just off and running and getting clients and doing what I’ve been doing what I could I mean for me getting up every day and doing my job isn’t necessarily hard and I think I’m fortunate that I have that s Ellison and work ethic that I know is very challenging for many people but you know I just learned quickly I could get a lot of clients and and synergize and and do a lot for them and and just sort of Broad and from there awesome yeah I’m having flashbacks to reading a book called guerrilla marketing back when I was doing start up stuff and and it really did get a budget mattered so you had to teach you had to be creative and you had to think out-of-the-box so I can I can resonate with that and I remember one of a CEO for a company I work for has said you know the difference if there’s a difference between marketing and PR and marketing is what you say about yourself in PR is what other people say about you and you really really want to have that that perspective that that’s where the third person perspective in your printing and copying in to have it buffering so that the artists and the company’s don’t aren’t doing all of that he’s some kind of damage control I guess you could say and sometimes they just that stuff that Shameless self-promotion that people people can see through it on the on the receiving end and then on the giving end you’d rather not be tooting your own horn so much so it’s a really vital function that you play in the in the ecosystem of have any kind of business and I love to hear about just soap for people who aren’t that well versed in what a publicist does it would appear our company does tell us about the sort of day today and I’m kind of break it down for people who might not know famous for a living right you know the longer sort of breakdown of that is you know celebrities Brands companies hire a publicist to get there messaging in there and what they have to sell out there to the media which is then you know red watched listen to buy hopefully millions and increases sales increases exposure and increases the the growth of of whatever the brand or the company or the person is so it’s an aspect of marketing but it’s solely deals with sort of the public Persona and then obviously the media which radio TV print and online are the four basics of that and obviously they in this day and age you know what you know podcast would kind of be filed under radio but it’s also online it’s audio but there’s there can be a video component that can be a a written component so you have a lot of Lines Blurred when it comes to the media nowadays and I just think for me it’s important for my clients in this day and age there’s so much opportunity there so many ways to get your message out there and you know me and you know my team and and myself we look to find those opportunities finals relationships and and do everything we can for clients to to accomplish the goals that they have female except for us how’s your job gotten more difficult at all or more challenging in the age of social media where you have the potential for celebrities to put their foot in their mouth to and create these Mega backlashes online that you kind of do have to do some some damage control on that do you have any thoughts what the the social media landscape has done for your industry herself you know social media gives you a way to do a more immediate Outreach but sometimes you have to be careful clients have to be careful what they say out there you know what I work more left-of-center stuff where you know I’m not working conservative projects that you know they have to be really careful what they say but certainly at I work with clients that you know we talked about messaging and we talked about what they put out there and make sure we’re on the right we’re on the right track and we’re in agreement and on the right path but I think social media you know I think it’s it’s positive it’s certainly a life-changing things it certainly has changed the landscape of society and and whatnot on a larger scale but you’re not the end of the day we all are just fascinated by other people and they do so it just open doors opens doors in that respect what do you know actually makes me think about how it made some sense you talking about Dimension to have the image of Tower Records on Sunset and I’m just the decline of the record industry and all of the digitization of all kinds of media and how that took a big chunk out of profits for a lot of folks in an industry but when I based on what you were just say no actually realized you might think that the same thing would happen to PR once people could become demigod celebrities on social media by themselves but the reality is they probably need to hire a publicist more than ever because you need that filter right you need that you need someone to advise you on on the strategies of how you express yourself because it’s so easy to just fire something off that just Neo take sweat they say it could take 5 years to build a career in 5 seconds to destroy rights and all I would add to it is you know you need you need someone in my position when you have something that is so public and you need someone that can help you because a lot of times there is a lot of Crisis and a lot of people don’t know what to do and we’ve certainly witnessed over the years when when things go wrong or how you know when things are handled poorly and you know we live at a time where the media is constantly attacked so they’re going to attack that so you want to be on the right side of things and you want you know if you want to handle your media aspect as professionals possible and it’s there are challenges you know I’m not a brain surgeon this isn’t brain surgery by any any respect but it’s an important part of the marketing and sales aspect and the overall brand awareness of who you are and what you’re trying to accomplish yeah I think that was a good real basic intro and overview and just kind of hammers hammers in that this part of the ecosystem of success as a creative artist is not is not going away in or should it and so it was it is a breath of fresh air and I think about it a lot I think about a lot how how to moderate myself and there’s a lot of fear and and hesitation in this climate of you know you can really you can really put your foot in your mouth so I I I think it says probably at yeah it’s it’s been on my mind you know this whole your sector of industry and where it’s at so this is timely for me until I guess I would say to be somewhat selfish for a moment here with the last few minutes I would say that I guess bringing this back to what my my unique value proposition is to the world as my representing myself and my brain really it is I guess it is kind of element in a way I’m saying sexuality and pornography and all forms of of music and art they can all actually be very healing and very therapeutic and there’s almost a bias against that because people sometimes in some sense people want to just have really either extremely kind of edgy entertainment that just gets them off sexually or titillates them or sort of just appeals to that Hollywood sense of just completely not necessarily that intentional or that healing or that spiritual and so there’s kind of a bias against what I’m offering which could be seen his kind of all you’re you’re just a goody-two-shoes you’re kind of a mama’s boy you want people to be meditating and doing yoga and actually it might my sort of reply to that that biases that actually know what what some of the practices that are done in shamanic Sexual Healing Sarah on your work are actually equally if not more extreme and in and actually riveting and and put you on the edge of your seat as is anything that would be considered danzo or Triple X Ino Xtreme Hardcore and it really is Hardcore to be doing some of the more spiritual aspects of sexuality so when I I put out a press release I don’t know if that was the one that you saw or if that was a wet what the time frame was around that but I would just say to you do you think there is a niche for what would I would call shamanic pornography or porn that intense did not only educate but also to promote healing and healing from trauma and and what not yours if not longer you know when I first got in the industry as far as adult entertainment goes is very one-dimensional especially the media coverage and it was all about getting eyeballs because you could use the word pornography in a way that you know people be like oh what what it what are they going to talk about and then then then there was a change in the change happened when media like Vice came along and media like BuzzFeed and and other media that said to a certain extent and we’re not going to just treat this as one-dimensional because it isn’t a one-dimensional discussion it is in a one-dimensional product you know as as the adult industry expanded I found it interesting that the media expanded in their coverage and you have certainly the negatives does the word in general is certainly looked at in a negative way and I rarely use it I say it because of that is once you say that word and it’s you know maybe one day it’ll be changed or looked at not as this glaring sing but as a form of entertainment form of Education a form of you know healing as as you as you work on but the media look to do more coverage and be more multi-dimensional and to what you’re trying to accomplish and what you’re doing what you’re doing and what you’re trying to accomplish to my point is you can find media that’s not easy but you can find people you can find writers you can find me there you can find public entities you can find people that will want to discover what you are doing and will want to make others aware and will want to build the foundation and build a fanbase in and build a unit around it so which is not the issue these days the issues speed of time and the issue is just sort of the you know overwhelming amount of media that we deal with everyday especially in our current political climate where we’re being overdosed with one piece of toxic news after another and end toxic not men the political fashion just met met you know we’re bombarded with different types of briefs and stories and just aspects of life that can that are just so fast and furious and you’re trying to fit in there you know you’re almost trying to swim upstream and place you know place your story on a rock while well water keeps hitting in the face so I I I constantly am taking on opportunities and clients and different types of niches and different types of products and different types of stories because I know who’s to say that I know what a media person will want to write about or not I don’t what I do is I give them the opportunity and I find out hey is this is this interesting do you want to do this do you want to cover this and it’s yes or no or mid might be a maybe or they’re on the fence or they’ll think about it and we did we discuss it and see what happens so it’s just a the media is a constant River at its its 24/7 its domestic and international you know stories can break anywhere in the world and then just travel the speed of light and around the globe and become as you know become viral so it’s just a it’s just the the effort and the Mine Song of people in your position as to am I ready to take this Challenge on I’ve something Niche I’ve something unique but I think it’s important and and how do I get it out there and and what you know how many people can I turn on to what I have to build from from where I’m at well those are profound words of wisdom and I’ve got chills because I know that at some point I have I’ve got two to cross that and make that leap of faith sand and be willing to be criticized and be willing to be sued and be willing to be all kinds of things and having that team and I feel like the podcast has been a tool to to kind of build that team and to know if there is a you know what keeps me up at night is what happens if there is an influx of capital what if there is a viral content piece that get 50 goes out and it’s not that you become rich and famous overnight at you is that you become suddenly under the microscope and you need to know about compliance with a lot of things and so that that’s my Virgo mind getting getting very sort of The Fearless aspect where I try not to overthink even though it’s impossible but I just I just try and push you know you just you know I I’ve constantly at a career of why not you know why not internet a record label why not internet another one why not drop out of school you know cuz it was just wasting time and money you know and then why not become an assistant why not become a tour publicist why not go to an adult entertainment company Why not start your own PR Company why not work with Gene Simmons you know it’s you know if you can answer why not then there’s no reason you know and you know we always I’m a Star Wars junkie and I think you might be in the same generation or not but we all sort of live by the the words until the age of of Yoda and so you try not you do or you don’t you do not but you just don’t try to go for it and you know there’s certainly you you think things out and they’re processing is calculated risk and what not but I’ve always another mindset where if you if you’re if you’re thinking too much about it then it’s just time wasted you know you’re not pushing forward and what you’re trying to accomplish but once you get past that you know and and you’re not going to know if I sitting around thinking you’ll never know if it takes off or not you just won’t it is the action and it is the risk that you have to eunos put out there and find out if you have something or not and you know I definitely I’ve had all kinds of clients I really have and I’ve had successes clients it succeeded sold our company and made lots of money and I have clients that failed you know but it just nothing worked and Company disbanded and I’ve got you know hundreds of files of clients over 19 years and but they all they all went for it you know wherever they are you know there’s somewhere you know that they took a risk and even when I produced a reality show you know what they say it was a risk I was a two-year process to even get to production but once you know once we decide we’re going to do it my partners and I at the time of that production company we just put her head down and we weren’t going to give up and we got the parties involved then it did well could have done better but it did well exist in there broke a lot of ground but it’s definitely important you know there’s just that dividing line of doing something and in what it is that hold you back from from going for it yeah I hear you there is just kind of wrap up here to respect your time and then I will just say that again More Chills and more of just that that cause mcnab’s you know there was there is one Flagship I guess I would say it was for me was like the pilot episode of the series that I’m doing now it’s called sexorcism the tantric Opera twitch wow Google Keyword that I want to fully on because a lot of without weather so I can get is an album is a band that did an album called sexorcism there’s there’s a kind of I don’t know if it’s play with the idea but but what I’m bringing to it is it is definitely from a pure-hearted place of sincere documentarian work and so hopefully that’s I think what’s going to be what I would put money into an invest in to try to get some some media coverage on and I’ve been a little bit shy about it now for a couple of years just wanting to not be the one to push that in people’s faces but that’s exactly the layer of buffer that I need of someone to say hey look take it or leave it this is what this guy’s doing here it is and if I can have that someone like you help me with that then I think it’ll be it’ll be a dream come true so we will we will talk offline about what your thoughts are for the trajectory of a project like that but I would love to discuss obviously well and I look forward to having that discussion and obviously I appreciate being on your podcast in and you know getting to have this kind of discussion I think I ain’t got to a certain extent I think people you’re right don’t really understand publicity and public relations and media relations and you know marketing to a full extent but I think it’s you know having the conversation and getting the opportunity to talk about it even one person goes wow that’s interesting I want to I want to know what that career is you know something I’m always interested in doing it you know making people aware of the career and path I chose the life I chose and you know going from there well I’m sure there’s a lot of people who would say as they received the rewards that they couldn’t have done it without you and so hopefully I will be able to join those ranks sooner rather than later and again and again thank you for reaching out to me as very synchronistic yeah let’s let’s be in touch do you want to tell people where to find where to find your work and just yeah side BSG pr.com and my Twitter and my Instagram RBS GPR and it’s financials at when I made the company name it was like well we’ll just Brian Scott gross of my name and BSG are my initials and public relations and it was just a simple as that so I guess I was another thing I learned of like trying to keep you know keep it linear and you’re hiring me and so that’s where a Vsepr came from awesome alright will Brian thank you again so much that I had a great time and can’t wait to get to know you better and move on from here so thank you so much again and have a great afternoon thank you you as well look forward to catching up with you again real soon all right take care of podcast please go to www.crunch.com and cook on the Donate button to help support the show in addition to sustaining and improving the podcast for donations will help establish permaculture goddess temples every bite ecological employment for single mothers Please Subscribe and share your favorite episodes if you have questions or comments feel free to leave a voicemail at 818-275-1593 or email bad at Tantra Punk. Com


Live Tantric Lovemaking Webcam Sessions Offered by iX-Chel Sandivel and Christian TPPM01


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In this mini episode I’m blessed to share and promote a rare and exciting offer from iX-Chel Sandivel and her beloved Christian. They are taking a bold leap into the world of live lovemaking on the web for exclusive private video chat clients.

This is a herstoric opportunity to witness for a limited time the expression of highly cultivated elite mastery of the loving arts of tantra yoga.

Please email iX-Chel for more details on their lovely offer and visit her website at: http://ixchelsandivel.com/

About iX-Chel:

iX-CheL Sandivel is an intimacy artist & mentor passionate about creating safe and expansive experiences that allow the human spirit to evolve into new levels of ecstatic awareness, confidence and self love. Former Nike Elite Nationally Ranked long distance runner and model, iX-Chel has been practicing and teaching Tantra for over 8 years. She leads events around the world based on Tantra Yoga & Dance with a contemporary twist. Tantra is a conscious ceremonial practice full of yogic arts, mediations, rituals and techniques. This eastern philosophy allows human beings to increase their awareness, confidence, pleasure, intuition and connect with their inner most innate truth, wisdom and creative expression.

About Christian:

Christian is a restaurant owner, yogi, artist and designer living in Mexico. Extreme, edgy and addictive behavior as early as Christian can remember. This includes early forays into his sexuality. In his extremely early teens he was highly sexually active. Without discernment he felt to be a highly sexual being and recalled sex being his first “high.”

Soon thereafter alcohol and drugs mixed with sex became a normality as well as a coping mechanism in his life. A poor and unhealthy introduction to his sexuality. In his late teens, he had his first encounter with a much older tantrica who started to ground him in the healing properties of sexuality. Soon thereafter he experienced true love for the first time and realized the far reaching complexities to sexuality.

After those years Christian became a professional percussionist in Los Angeles and worked with a lot of great bands like Janes Addcition. He lived a life of severe access both chemically and sexually. This period ended in a complete crash. Losing relationships and those he loved the most and all his freedom. In the path of recovery, he discovered yoga and meditation. Also, he connected the importance of love, sex and intimacy and its extraordinary healing properties. After the crash he did a complete conscious introspection, from seemingly innate tendencies, to patterns that developed from early abuses taken on as a child. On the path to recovery, honest awareness and self love, he began to awaken the real lover inside and develop a true relationship to his sexuality.

Consciously choosing to openly celebrate sexuality mixed with true love which is endlessly expansive and beautiful, Christian believes in exposing this journey because there’s nothing shameful in the celebration of sexual openness particularly met with real love.


Relationship Contracts and Tantric Games with John Hill TPP117


In this episode I’m joined by John Hill, a highly accomplished modern tantric innovator. First, he shares the highlights of his extensive personal life history of exploration and training within various schools of tantric thought and practice. We later discuss his novel approach to teaching tantra through games that through the process of playing, participants can develop tantra based skills and teachings within a more playful frame. We also compare notes on the practice of designing relationship contracts that greatly enhance the functionality of romantic relationships of all kinds.

Please connect with John at:

johnihill [at] gmail [dot] com

About John:

My life has been a series of adventures, both physical and emotional. Over the last 30 years, after I discovered the path of Tantra, the adventures have intensified and have been more about awakening – awakening desire and exploring the potential of who I am and what I can create. Much of my awakening has been through a wide variety of classes, workshops and programs focused on our relationship with our mind, body, breath, emotions, and spirit. My exploration has taken me through some of my biggest challenges, which coincidentally, happen to be areas that many find challenging – money, sex and power. I’ve been able to create what some might call miracles in each area.

However, you might never have heard of me. I might be the best kept secret in the world of Tantra. Part of this is due to a sense of humility that comes from my introverted nature, as well as my Japanese roots where it’s not about standing out. Part of it is due to the fear of my power and becoming a public figure. However, it’s time to come out of the shadows and shine my light. I have too much to offer to play small. I invite you to join me and embark on your own Tantric Adventure.

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Tantra Punk your guide to sexual Liberation healing and empowerment as a certified Tantra counselor and certified permaculture designer I’m here to help you grow spiritually sexually and ecologically my online and in-person counseling sessions and training programs are price to fit any budget I’m looking forward to helping you design and ever more Divine Life Path please send me an email to Ben at Tantra Punk. Com and our journey together will begin hello Jennifer Lopez welcome to Township on podcast episode number 117 I am with John Hill and he is an intimacy coach and tantric touch your guide yes and we we met a couple times and very excited for what he’s been developing really innovative ways to transmit the ancient teachings of Tantra for people in the modern world and here we talk to pretty extensively at the expence show the adult entertainment more of the startup business ideas of things that was a conference and we were just talking a lot about how we’d like to continue to just find new avenues for the love and Spiritual Development of hamster to find just more open more hearts in and relieve my open heart mind so on that note to tell us about your personal life and now you ask him to be beautiful person in provided if you are there’s a go I actually my first Workshop was with a probably many of your listeners know Charles Muir and he has his particular brand of Tantra but it was my first taste of Tantra and it changed my life is that I got so Jazz by what I learned in my experience that class that I turned around and talk to him and said look I want to produce you in LA and and so I brought him to LA and started producing his Workshop serenade then I started producing Workshop some other time for teachers started studying with other Tantra teachers Bode of inertia sunyata Saraswati and some other or so since that time I felt like I was I was my girlfriend and I together we were doing this that we kind of started Tantra in LA and now there’s tons of Tantra teachers here so it’s very cool it feel satisfying to be able to have kind of brought that into the Consciousness here thank you very much I’m glad to know that I thank you so since then I I actually have gone through a lot of stages with Tantra it’s interesting because when I first discovered Tantra for me it was just about sex and getting going to become a better lover and all of that and as I went deeper into it I realized how much more was in of the spirituality aspects of the energy were the healing aspects I ended up getting certified in the in the tradition of absolute on Trump and then I get a started teaching in that vein but then I hooked up with this guy who tried something really unique and that is kind of where I kind of changed my path so to speak so my signature practice now is what I called Lochte Hahn slh i h a n i don’t know if you’ve ever heard of that talks about it quite a bit on her podcast great-great so but I’m not too familiar with it so please that I breathe well it it’s a practice in which you do is you surrender into your body’s desire so as I am I experienced the body has its own kind of desire and we usually run our body from our mind but if you let go of the mine and really sink into the body and surrender into the body what will happen is that the body begins to do things on its own like for example when I Surrender fully into my body and my body takes over you know I totally relax totally let go and then my body starts moving and doing things and it’s always a surprise at what my body does sometimes my jaws will start the chattering and what I get there is that I’m moving fear fear of authentic authentic Lee expressing myself of speaking my truth cuz when I was a child I wasn’t really allowed to express myself my father would hit me when I was just a baby whenever I cried and so I learned very early on not to cry not to express anything not to express what I was feeling and so I cleared a shitload of fear in my jaw and as a result I become more and more authentic. Express and I feel like now I am not afraid of what people will think I’m not afraid of how people might judge me I’m Not Afraid potentially being condemned for what I say so it’s giving me a huge freedom in terms of how I express myself and one of my intentions over the last year or so has been to become a charismatic speaker writer and being able to move people influence people in a way that basically improves the planet next the world a better place awesome can you speak a bit about the absolute on strip system I I read the jewel in the Lotus and found it to be very instructive and enlightening and powering and I’ve been too I think maybe one or two of their official workshops and was very impressed and seems like one of the more I guess we’ll curated modern opportunities to study Tantra so do you have do you want to talk about that kind of introduce people to it it is a tradition handed down from Papa G from several thousand years ago and so it has a lineage which is unusual in the world of Tantra and it was actually Sundiata sarswati traveled all over the world and picked up all kinds of stuff from all kinds of places but in his travels to India that’s where he discovered it and then he was in a relationship with Bode other nausea who was more of a writer and a producer and so they clap created this course and probably the big thing that was handed down through that lineage was Cobra and so I’m sure you’re familiar with the least a level 1 cover breath and maybe the level two but there are several levels of the cup of breath and then I have a another person who I’m at and who I ended up learning a lot even from him he actually created a community in Austria but he is in India right now and he is an Explorer and a scientist name is Greg immke he and I have collaborated collaborated back we have a website together called authentic sharing. Com where he is now in India as I said and working on agelessness is actually getting younger by if you can believe that but I believe it I’ve seen people and they practice loading on and there’s only a few of us that teach this and by the way the trim Lighting on cadieux on me spiritual exercise and it’s the the term lot even is Indonesian and it was a term used by what’s the term used by so good which is more of a spiritual organization not trying to trick it’s actually kind of organization and they practice in a very different way than Greg and I practice said they they do it in large groups which is great but they have the men and women separate and they don’t touch each other and for them it’s about communicating with God which I believe you can’t because in my experience practicing a lot Egon I found that you can begin to Greg Carlson connecting into inner guidance for me it almost feels like I’m connecting in the spirit and spirit is talking to me so I get Visions I get Visions I get words I guess I get actually some of my greatest business ideas through Lighting on it it’s amazing it’s kind of like I’ve been lately calling it going into the genius Zone where I tap into my genius in in fact there’s a book out called stealing fire which is Broken Arrow from Sing Prometheus and these guys that were doing this flow Genome Project coined the term called ectasis ticket from the word ecstasy and what they call a character Isaac’s tasses with the four terms steer which stands for selflessness timelessness effortlessness and richness it’s a flow State and and what I found is that Lottie Han puts you into this kind of Flow State into the state of ecstatic has so it’s a very powerful practice I’ve been doing it may be anywhere from 10 to 20 hours a week or the last 20 years it has it is created miracles in my life I mean one time I created like $100,000 in a single day I keep in mind that that breakthrough around Lenny was preceded by a huge breakdown but it’s also you know it is has provided many break this in right now I’m working on this is breakthrough since so that’s why I say I get my best business ideas from that space from that practice right on so do you want to talk about it I your practice with intimacy coaching and Township guidance I’d like to hear some highlights of worship that’s actually it was something that I’ve actually started recently I have a Okay so disclaimer I I have been coach for about 10 years but I am a horrible marketer and I don’t actually think that I was meant to relate I think I was supposed to be on a path of my own transformation and so I would do some coaching here and there with different people but I never really made a lot of money at it and when I made a lot of money trading day trading that’s where I made a hundred thousand I ended up retiring and moving to Hawaii so this one of my pictures and sew in Hawaii I spend a lot of time transforming myself who I am having fun I ended up marrying two women at the same time and yes they were like half my age so it was it was it was a disaster in the making they had a whole lot of fun up until the shipments and I ended up falling in well I fell in love with one of the women and wanted to be monogamous with her but she wasn’t going to have it every week we spent a little time in Monopoly like a month but after that she was like she was in love with my best friend and she was in love with me too but man I got so fucking jealous it was like I went through like what is that called The Night of the dark so we ended up getting divorced on every level. Perfect cuz I learned compassion and I learned what jealousy is all about all about all about fear because Greg was my best friend and my teacher and my mentor and you know this incredible and so I put them on a pedestal and actually how could I compete with him with my wife so so is all the sphere and comparison in all ego ship all the good shit so if you play hindsight I I get it you know it’s it’s kind of like you know when you ask for what you want in a cuz I might desire My was to have an open relationship with more than one woman and so I ended up marrying two of them but God has a funny way of as a as a sense of humor have to say cuz sometimes when you get what you ask for be careful something’s going to shift at twist and turn and you’re going to end up in some sort of incredibly powerful learning process. now I feel like I can actually you know I’m in a new relationship now that I actually went through a bunch of relationships since that divorce but I jetes at relationships and this is what I’d really like to talk about because I just started a few months ago a a relationship where I’m calling at the tantric experiment and it really is an experiment in fact if any of your listeners are interested they can hit me up on Facebook my Facebook name is John Ichiro Hill that’s Ichiro Hill only one of me on Facebook so you can friend me but I have a Facebook on Facebook secret group called The tantric experiment if you look at their Facebook groups contract experiment you’ll find it I have to approve anyone that that Anna wants to come on and what I’m doing there is that she and I are sharing a relationship experience and so what I wanted to do was I want to experiment with a relationship that was about transformation about growing together about relay a toxic relationship and so when I say it’s not relationship what I mean is that we have certain agreements are we actually wrote a contract it took us three months to negotiate the contract cuz everything is desire based and for me Tantra is the path of desire and so we support each other’s desires and we have a lot of resonant desire so you know our desires fit together in other words we want the same kinds of be one of the things that she wants to do is she wants to surrender more she wants to move more live more in her feminine issues very masculine in what ways and I’m very feminine in terms of I’m able to easily surrender which is good with a lot of hard practice but I want to practice more of my masculine which is about control about giving about doing about creating and maintaining a holding a strong container where’s the family is about surrender about letting go about being about going into the unknown then ask him it’s more about the known so I get to practice at with her and it is great but what we’re doing inside as relationship as we’re going to explore all the chakras so I have I used Tantra games to explore the chakras at but the big areas that were exploring the ones that are the toughest for most people are money sex and power especially inside a relationship so we are definitely exploring money we have a money game we also have a truth game that we’re playing where we are being radically transparent with each other and sharing your feelings are truth sharing her desires all about and so we play games we have we played a few on audio for during the negotiation phase I was using car audio recorder and record our conversations and some of the games to play it so we played a desire game we played a gratitude game but we’re also going to be we also played a few secs games but we’re also going to be going deeper into sex games one of the things she wants to do is she wants to have a threesome with another woman and strangely enough I’m not opposed to it any definite plans around it yet but we’re also going to be exploring so this next Sunday we’re going to take a orientation with special which is I think one of the old the old dungeons in LA right I don’t know if you’re aware of that well they have a clubhouse in the valley and we’re going to be going there she she’s really into wrestling up she wants to explore can she’s really interested in tying up women she loves being tied up by me so so that’s kind of our first cake that were exploring will be exploring other things as well BDSM and in a different things I might even try a little bit of Fire play we’ll see where all of that goes but that’s what I mean by 200 games so summer sex games summer intimacy games some open the heart some open the throat chakra do you want to describe more how the game works at what to do with the rules are how its setup and well the games that I’ve devised often times are games that are adapted from different different I guess different I guess how would how would I put it the original these days and so things have been floating around for many times like the 12-step program has I think something like a gratitude inventory I don’t know if only ones but one taste where I studied orgasmic meditation and actually got certified as a coach they have a bunch of Anna Victoria so they have a gratitude inventory they have desire inventory they have fear inventory and so I adapted some of these games they even have the game called hot seats another one called intimacy say so they have a lot of different games that they play and Aisha actually have a website that I I developed the like 4 years ago 3 4 years ago call Tantra games.com both attending sharing. Common soccer games. Com are websites that are still running but I don’t read they’re more like Museum pieces at this point I’m planning on starting up a new website based on my name for my business but you can go there and take a look I have some games and I talked about games there but I’ll tell you the Gratitude game that I played with my girlfriend that was back in I think February that we played that game it is a great game it’s a hard opening game that supports people in feeling the love basically if you’re in a relationship it’s a great game to play what you do is set a timer for 15 minutes or whatever time you want for 15 minutes is a good time because it gives you a chance to write quite a few gratitudes so what you ride is I love dot-dot-dot about you what it is did you write down everything that you love about your partner or your lover whoever it is that you’re doing this this game with and they write the same thing about you I love this about you I love that about you I love you know I love whatever and you write this all down and then at the end when the timer goes off you got all these gratitudes or things that you love about this person and then you read them to each other add each time you read one the other person the person is listening says thank you and sometimes you’ll be surprised about what your partner loves about you it’s a great way how would this be how we making this available with a v through like a workbook or videos or no I’m actually planning on giving some free webinars and these webinars I’m going to start these webinars next month they’re free webinars anyone around the world can connect you and his sister will be on Zoom I’m probably going to live it up to like 50 people get a soda have to register in a day but during the webinar is called life lessons so if you look for it life lessons a webinar and you can always hit me up on Facebook if you like or if you want to get my email address is John I Hill at gmail.com but what I’m going to do with this webinars is I’m going to share an embarrassing story for my life and the lesson I learned that embarrassing story because life is your most powerful teacher how you can study with teachers are great but life your girlfriends or boyfriends your relationships are your most powerful teachers and so during each webinar will be about an hour long what I’m going to do is I’m going to share an embarrassing story probably about some well some people call a taboo subjects I think my first webinar I’m going to be talking about my first marriage where I ended up having a mistress a secret mistress on the side and lying about it for two years so I’m not proud of it but I’m hoping that through my story people will learn that paper we all make mistakes we all do things because we have egos we have an identity and the identity will make us to strange things because they were afraid or you know whatever the whatever is going on from our childhood wounding or whatever it is will create message sometimes but we can learn from these messages and so I’m going to share a story I’ll talk about why I did what I did you know kind of related to the ego and then talk about the lessons I learned from it cuz there’s just some very powerful lessons at once you learn from your mistakes from the things that you do in your life and then I’m going to probably a share a contract principal make my pee after Po and then I’ll share a country game with everyone and so you’re free to use the soccer game so I’m not like selling the toddler games so I’m I’m maybe as someday I will but right now a lot of these games like I’m just willing to give away but I do have a new program coming up which is called the ton trick Adventure it’s a 90-day program in which I’ll be ushering about Tantra and how it can support you in creating whatever it is you want in your life in a weather Financial Freedom sexual freedom for me Tantra as I said it’s a path of Desire but it’s even more importantly a path to freedom and when I say freedom what I mean by that is freedom from the shackles of the ego rather than being controlled and run by your ego you’re actually the ego becomes a friend and a servant so if anyone’s interested in that I’d be glad to offer your listeners I’ll be willing to offer like 10 free sessions 10 free Discovery session is although what I’m doing now with my Discovery sessions is rather than making it a discovery session but I like to do is play a game and the game I want to play with people is what I call the desire breakthrough game so you bring whatever desire you have you know something maybe that you thought was impossible or you given up on or a desire that just doesn’t seem to want to fulfill that something is blocking you or whatever it is that you have a desire that just is not happening call I’d like you to bring that and what I’m going to do is we’re going to do an hour session and for 45 minutes I’m going to work with you using my technology and support you in having some sort of breakthrough with your desire and then the last 15 minutes is just to give you an opportunity to ask me questions I’ll share about the tongue Creek Adventure the 90-day program might be possible for you in that program and then no obligation if you’re interested you can do no sign up to pay a deposit and be in the program or if you decide know I got what I needed from you know your break through then that’s fine too so it is a free session and and I just didn’t like to offer to your carelessness awesome thank you so much so what did you what do you have more things planned on the rising or you’re going to be pretty busy with this for now I’m working on launching my business I entered into a mentorship program with this woman I’ve actually it’s interesting the last few years has been really so powerful women in my life Nicole daidone of one taste was powerful woman that really changed my life in a lot of ways I learned a lot from her and one taste but this other woman her name is Marisa Murgatroyd what the name you know she is a business coach a branding expert she helps entrepreneurs become super heroes to their tribe so I enrolled in a year-long mentorship program work program with her I put down 18,000 for this program so you know that I’m serious about it and what I find is that programs like this cuz I was in a coaching program with one Tay’s what they provide you know any Workshop or any kind of program that you’re in for bicycling tainer and inside that container you can actually transform so I took what I found is that inside of this container I’m actually starting transform and starting to really feel like I can make a huge impact on the world and that’s really what I wanted to I’ve learned a lot I’ve experienced a lot I feel like I’ve got a lot of gifts to give now and and that’s what I want to do want to make a difference in the world and make an impact in a positive way is theirs yeah there’s so much going on the world right now that is hard for me to show us a stomach I mean we have for president who sing Congress the state of war that we seem to be in for so long and I see no end in sight and and the way that were thrashing this planet I mean you know it hurts it it makes me pissed off every time I look at Facebook and I see all the stuff going on I just this is really hard so I want to make a difference in some way and I’m doing it with Tantra so that’s my two cents right there and I will I look forward to seeing the first and all these things I definitely feel like a games and fun and then you know light-hearted activities are a better way to learn new content and being a sort of well they could be a storage area nor are punitive ways to shake people out of their patterns and whatnot there’s just certainly I would like a lighter softer way to engage with some of the Shadow work and stuff them in a cemetery yeah yeah I get it and I also want to say that the time for games that I talked about use the word game purposely because I want people to have fun and I want people to feel like they’re playing at life that life is actually a game and not take it so seriously and at the same time the games are designed 2 create some discomfort and this is important for people to understand in fact one of the things that I noticed on my Facebook group that’s on trick experiment is that I I finally realized I think I knew this before anyway but I’m starting to realize more and more that I am what you might call a transformation Catalyst in business to call someone like me a change agent and so what I will say or sometimes do will make people uncomfortable things that happened in my Facebook group and you might get a kick out of this is why I talked about radical transparency about with my My Girlfriend by the way we’re in a six-month contract just so you know that this contract that we sign is for 6 months and at the end of 6 months I actually don’t know what’s going to happen I love that I’ve done the same thing and I want to hear hear more details about that cuz I think that’s the way to go it is an awesome way to do relationship because for me while in a could be six months could be a year could be three months whatever but but the cool thing is that it’s a commitment and you know how many people are commitment-phobes especially guys and women complain about you have no commitment and so this is the way making a commitment for a limited amount of time and then deciding okay well at the end of that time do we do another 6 months or do we call it quits or do we get married or in a like it leaves a relay open so I really like that aspect of it but what I do with our truth game is I will share things that aren’t always easy for her to hear and I did this in the group and its it triggered a bunch of people and what I shared was that I forget the contacts but there was something that she had said and then I said you know we have a difficult relationship sometimes and sometimes I’m really attracted to her and sometimes I’m repulsed by her while the word repulsed predator and and she said something like repulsed writing and then I wrote well where you going with this you know this is just a feeling and I am feelings we have really have no control over I choose to Love You Love A friend of mine from way back he was in a men’s group with me and he just did not hold back at all and he gave me a new one he said something like he basically said I was insensitive ass all week we joke about it my girlfriend I cuz I said you know you can my pet name or you can give you the pet name insensitive asshole just call me whenever you want and then when is thinks that she has is cuz she complains all the time about do things for her like I I want to serve desire part of the role of the masculine is to serve desire and the role of the salmon is to receive and so I’m always rented server desire and always reading something new with her opening new doors creating things that she’s never experienced before like she’s never experienced ejaculation female ejaculation and so she recently started ejaculating in she’s like oh my God you know so there’s always something new that I am I’m opening up for her and she loves it and she’s she will say something like you know so great what you did I love that and and then she’ll complain about what I didn’t do so then my pet name for her is greedy ditch and she laughs so so so white hardness and games and play are really great and you got to know that it’s going to get them comfortable you know we I triggered her all she triggers me sometimes and so if we didn’t have this commitment we’ve actually signed a contract who knows who might have split up and I know and so it is great it’s a great way of staying in the game playing Fallout and knowing that we both have enough Integrity to stay the course and the we’re really in the unknown about what’s going to happen at the end but I do know one thing is at the end of the six months we’re going to do a completion ceremony where we do the Gratitude game once more and we’re going to we’re going to come work really going to get the love and appreciation that we have for each other and we’ve been in each other’s lives and then what we’re going to do 3 to take a month-long break from each other so get a break for a month not talk to each other just be totally separate so we can come back into ourselves as as things and then of what we’re going to do is come to back together for a weekend and incidentally we only see each other on the weekends cuz I really have to focus on my business so we don’t live together but the weekend is this intense when we come back together for weekend and then we decide what’s next together I love it this is the Paradigm I would love to and have it with more people who don’t now there’s someone that I have a list of of of with the word hesitation or why I understand why people get hostel and and negative and and resistant to this disk approach but I feel like the benefits way very much outweigh the drawbacks and I’m curious if you have you know what do you want to call him selling points or just dump rose on the pros and cons but just help can a layout for if we can for a few minutes the what did common arguments against this is and it’s obviously fighting mostly from people who never tried it and I just will not dare they will not dare try something like this because they believe in myself box but they basically you’re so brainwashed in program that they don’t have self control and power to design their own the way they conduct their body and they’re in their hearts they just want to be in this delusion of spontaneity is is the only way to be sincere as it has to be spontaneous and it has to the only love is true is got it it’s not true if it doesn’t last forever reminisce Smith’s oh by the way to look at it if you want to help us meth bust around you know why is it doesn’t have to be so structured and so so chaotic and you can actually put some thinking to it and design in Arby’s short and long-term lease contracts to see will I would love to I would love to one of the things I’ve learned in the last few years is how important a container is now I’ve known this for a while now because I used to do a lot of free-form dance and they always talk about a container in which is kind like the rules that’s why is games are a container structure you got rules and so a contract is a container you know it and the beauty of having a container is you can surrender in what you can feel safe in a container okay so let me let me explain that women have we all have it but women in particular have a Vigilant Center in one of the practices that I took up a few years back is orgasmic meditation and one of the big things about orgasmic meditation is that it has a very strong tight container it has like 14 steps is a protocol you have to do it this way if the dude that way everything is like this is the way you have to do it and it’s a very strong container but what’s important about this container is that creates safety for the woman because the woman is totally surrendered she’s got her legs spread and the stroker typically guy is stroking her clit now to have a one end end this could be strangers I mean I would stroke the clits of women that I just met for the first time I didn’t even know their name sometimes it was like for me it was kind of insane when I first started doing this now it’s because I’m kind of like normal but it’s still pretty weird that it is a woman’s take your pants off and she gets into the nest call the nest and and then you start stroking your clit but if it wasn’t for the container and knowing that guys and just did this is the other piece is the roll again the feminine to masculine and when I talked them in and ask’n were talking about the divine feminine Divine masculine it’s like The Duality inside Tantra and decide the physical world and so the role of the masculine is really to hold the container and the role of the feminine is surrender inside a container and Sosa same thing with relationship one of the big secrets that women in a what of what women want is women want to be able to surrender and if a guy can really hold a container man I mean you talking about I mean might my girlfriend will sometimes Cry tears of gratitude because of the container that I hold yeah it’s it’s really amazing intellect when we’re making love and and I’m just like I’m holding your so tight and I’ve got her arms wrapped and I’ve got my arms wrapped around her so she can’t even move and and it’s like she feels safe feels help and and I believe that at some level women really want this so it’s I think men if they can really learn how to hold a really great container and that’s why this relationship is working so great and we’ll see where it goes but it is a way in this why wouldn’t want to get married they want a container trouble is that you know they sometimes everything is going great until they get married then suddenly everything goes to shit what are you just need to get married once every six months in computer to the same person or two other person fight that’s what you’re talking about is you say queued going to renew your marriage contract at an interval that makes it so that you don’t get lazy with your health your of your you know your Fitness I mean is a million dimensions of slack that can be taken when you feel like you’re taken and you just let yourself go I was with Miss Lori and her said that you know a lot of people there they get me something about she was interviewing some swingers who were citing research that said that if you swing or swingers live longer because they’re healthier because they will then I guess this was the deduction is it because they are on the market for to be sexy for other people they actively maintain a healthy and fit lifestyle and they don’t just slumped into whatever so she sent you a lot of people these once they’re taken they just let themselves go and had said you know it’s it’s it’s interesting how everything could change if you had that sense of healthy competition and being sort of Liberty and Freedom Movement of people talk about Liberty how complacent the government institutions can be when they don’t have to compete they just take money and it’s all good and you know it doesn’t really matter they don’t have to innovate pressure to innovate and enough pressure to the efficient so you have all this you know well questionable efficacy in their ministration and then in the private sector you have Fierce competition and constant Innovation and you know somewhere I suppose you could say between but I mean to apply the analogy it’s like I said that to her lover boy you know before it’s it’s it’s it’s it’s actually going to make us love each other harder and better if we know that we both have the option to you know leave each other behind if we’re not performing satisfactorily it we’re not being you know measuring up if someone else comes along and that I always said to you know I don’t mind if I don’t really consider it cheating if I’m with a woman and she wants to be with somebody else you know either she going to have a great time and I’m and I can learn from that if she’s more satisfied or has a better experience or new experience I can run from that and if she doesn’t have a positive experience then that’ll be enforced that I’m the better lover if I need to have that sort of you know ego trip about it but yeah I just reaffirming you know what you’re saying and the trouble is that you know people think that once they get married you know they’re done and they’re safe and everything’s going to be hunky-dory and you know the rate of divorce in this country is rampant and so there’s no safety in you know having a lifelong monogamous marriage and so and end the kind of contract that you can design the kind of relationship you can design is just based on your desire main like for example I have no need to take on other lovers inside the six-month contract but I’ve encouraged her to have other lovers because the what happened was that I’ve had lots of lots of lovers in my life so I’ve had multiple threesomes for seven spice sounds like all kinds of stuff so it’s not a big deal to me but she’s only had like think like 5 lovers in her life and she’s had to Long marriage has been monogamous both of those and she just got out of a marriage maybe about a year after when we met and so she has it really been with other man and I feel like it’s important for her to have some experience with other men so that you know it’s not just me so inside or contract she is allowed to have other lovers I’m not allowed to have a lover unless she’s present was that your stipulation or was that her feeling or it was if we always agree that’s that’s the thing when you’re writing up my back do you have to fully agree to whatever is in the contract and want to break it or it can only last for it to be agreeable than it could maybe only lasts for one night and that’s that you know but it’s good to have it for as long as I just checked in 24 hours so if you can write up the contract anyway you want and you know if anyone is interested in any kind of support with that like I said we spent about three months going through it’s a I think about a three or four page contract another important to the contract because I want I have cuz I found it relationship is one of the most powerful ways of transforming so one of the things that we did in our contract was to write out an outcome statement and we each wrote out and welcome statement we put it in the past tense like this is already happen it’s like who do you want to be at the end of six months in a what kind of person who are you how do you relate to others you know who are you in the world and so it was just a small paragraph that each room is broke and we actually spoke those at our handfasting ceremony incidentally you know I’ve been talked about marriage a lot we did not get married we. Handfasted and had 10 passing it for those listeners that don’t know what it is was something from it was a pagan ritual we’re typically you would get hand fasted for a year and a day and so it was the original contractual I guess marriage if you will but it was not a lifelong thing it was a year-long thing at yourselves everything doesn’t it yeah yeah so you know what do you want to make 6 months going to make it a year make it a month whatever it is I mean one of my tires and my girlfriend noses and she actually has 6 tire is I’ve I’ve had this desire for a while for a few years now is to look up pornstar and actually actually would like to have like a short-term relationship with a pornstar so you know who is short-term relationship where I get to experience what that would be like if I’m sure it would push me lots of ways just one of those taboo kinds of desirous that I have a great that was actually that desire actually got me to La and created. Com well it created a whole bunch of stuff I actually interviewed 40 actors or audition for the actors when I came to La stars but I always liked all set to create a reality show I was going to be a star of the reality show pornstar was going to be real in real life turned out that it wasn’t the truth and I had to let it go for the moment but that’s how much this kind of like really what I would call a beastly desire in Ocala real like lower chakra kind of desire which I have no judgment about it’s just there’s just a lot of juice and energy and passion in that which pin relay juice up whatever you’re working on and so that desire so with me and now it’s being transferred into changing the world making a mess awesome well I guess I’m kind of doing this piece of meal do-it-yourself bootstraps reality Ishq drama series I guess you would call but it’s just it’s just if you become a country I don’t want to say master I’m really abhorrent kind of myself to that weird but when you become a facilitator educator a teacher coach you kind of can’t help but having a catalytic transformational effect on people to wear it in in in in a word that very easily understood by the media you know mass media culture is is you doing a country makeover when you take on a client and your kind of why is just funny because that’s one of my other other programs is what I call a ton truck makeover great minds think alike if I if I do say so myself as great as you and talk to you about that since we stumbled on here I haven’t really created the program yet it’s it was just one of my one of the I have like a program that is the chalk Creek Adventure which is 3 months the tantric makeover we should be six months and then actually creating a ton truck lifestyle which is a year-long program debonder once a right now I’m just watching the this program is brand-new the 23rd Adventure I’m going to limit it to like 10 or 12 people cuz I really want to devote all my energy into having everyone have a huge breakthrough fill in some details on that and give people something to look forward to checking out and oh okay well thanks thanks the Todrick Adventure like I said it’s a brand new program what’ll be is 90 days and during that time I’m going to be about three months I’ll be doing 12-hour training is this is all by the way to online so you don’t have to live in LA to be part of the program you can be anywhere in the world but once a week I’m going to be doing a training online like a 90-minute training and then I’m going to do some individual coaching on for the people like two or three coaching someone I also have a lot of video and multimedia I’ve been working with multimedia for a long time and what I found is out by the way I just did a a video of the practice of law team on and in what I I’ve done is made of instructional induction oil and vibrational so in other words there’s some instruction there about how to go into a lot of pain but then I actually enjoy induct people into the experience during the video so if you’re watching the video I actually asked you to close your eyes and then I start talking you into the experience and and what are the important parts of lighting line is that you can take an intention and have it in power and so the other piece is I called vibrational so the video carries of migration or frequency that will support you in receiving your desire or your intention and I have a a CD that I created about 8 years ago actually in Hawaii on the big call opening to receive by empowering the root chakra and it is a very very powerful I don’t know of any other CD or soundscape or sound healing CD out there that has the power of this month this when you can actually this really feel in your body when you listen to it now. The downside is that people don’t like it because it’s uncomfortable to guess what it’s doing is his activating everything that blocks you from actually receiving more from life so it’s going to activate all your fear that activate anger you’re going to get annoyed you’re going to get irritated you’re going to get like nervous anxiety is going to come up and so what you need to do if you need to actually move that energy so I teach people in this class how to move energy and I actually have a another video series called moving energy elegantly that I did about 10 years ago where I teach people how to move energy when I talk about energy really talks about emotional energy and so I shared with how to move pain fear anger I even have some massage tools that I used sometimes and so these are some of the training tools that I’ll be using and then I have some other videos of me actually going through a process where you can actually enroll friends to help you in a transformation process and and then I’ve got another video series that I did call the road trip Series where I was able to you know I got married to two women well this road trip I spent a couple of months on the road traveling with my friends and I had what we call the Catalyst convention and I did a bunch of things to clear my sex and relationship stuff that was you know my demons whatever you want to call him when he ghosts up and at the end of that trip I met this woman that I fell in love with and I had the most incredible sex that I’ve ever had we would basically have sex 6 or 7 hours a day about two and a half months and then she had to go back to Austria so so it’s incredible you can create so this road trip is about how do you create the relationship of your dreams I sure all of that in these videos cuz they’re actually videos of me clearing having a completion of clearing with my sister with my ex girlfriend with a bunch of people service it’s like amazing videos that I have to find those are that’s part of the programme had suggested I have to private message me on Facebook so they can do that my name is John each row Hill Ichiro they can email me John I Hill at gmail.com I think those are the best ways to reach me right now cool alright well thank you so much I had a lot of fun and I’m glad we got to come around since I’ve been here about half the halfway point of the year since we kind of said some high high level intentions from a high point of the the sunset the Sunset Boulevard was an m and has hotel which was where was that empowered and indefinitely there was lots of Prada running up to our little Council that we rebuilt their yeah it’s going to be nice to just keep flowing so yeah that’s definitely be in touch and I look forward to next time ya ya is so great to reconnect with you you’re a great guy I love what you’re doing in the world thank you likewise yeah we will definitely be in touch okay alright I’ll buy you for listening to the touch upon podcast please go to www.crunch.com and cook on the Donate button to help support the show in addition to sustaining and improving the podcast your donations will help establish permaculture goddess temples every bite ecological employment for single mothers Please Subscribe and share your favorite episode if you have questions or comments feel free to leave a voicemail at 818-275-1593 or email event at Tantra Punk. 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Seeking the Heart of Tantra with Nirmala Nataraj TPP57


Nirmala pic In this episode I am joined by Nirmala Nataraj. I discovered her great works in a search for a teaching on the symbology within the Kali Yantra and found her article.

She has graciously blessed the podcast by sharing her story of personal transformation through Tantra and Goddess Kali worship. She holds sacred space for me to share some of my revelations and research and generously provides validation of and guidance for many of my most controversial discoveries.

Together we weave a mutually affirming narrative of personal healing and spiritual growth through our devotion to Kali. We emphasize the need for preparation, care, and caution when approaching her might and magic. We also encourage listeners to find supportive fellowship as they rediscover and reinvent Kali’s vast primordial irrepressible nature.

Nirmala shares a description of the Kali Yantra and conducts a devotional guided meditation using the Yantra.

We close with a brief discussion on sexual healing and empowerment through tantra and she offers some great advice for individuals and couples to break through repressive cultural conditioning and reclaim the power and beauty of sacred love making.

Please connect with Nirmala and access her services via her websites:

About Nirmala:

I’m Nirmala Nataraj, a San Francisco Bay Area-based Desire Guru and Taboo Slayer (and you can find me at my day job here)!

Sacred Fire Desire Coaching is my way of connecting directly with those who want to embody their truth. My wish to expand people’s repertoire of tools and resources through creative problem-solving is paramount in my approach. I especially love to work with people to clear some of the obstacles that keep them from expressing their deepest truths—obstacles such as shame, past experiences of trauma, and the inability to embrace and integrate every last part of themselves.

For me, healing is something that happens when we are willing to wrestle our demons…and then become their friends (which also happens to be a recurring theme in my writing). I’m also interested in inspiring my clients to view relationships, intimacy, and sexuality as viable and rigorous paths to personal development and purpose.

My training background includes the OneTaste Coaching Program, the Co-Active Coach Training Program, and the Bay Area Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Immersion Program.

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Tantra Punk your guide to sexual Liberation healing and empowerment as a certified Tantra counselor and certified permaculture designer I’m here to help you grow spiritually sexually and ecologically my online and in-person counseling sessions and training programs are price to fit any budget I’m looking forward to helping you design and ever more Divine Life Path please send me an email to Ben at Tantra Punk. Com and our journey together will begin hello dear love his phone cover Township podcast episode number 57 I’m here with nirmala and we’re going to talk about goddess Kali and all of the beautiful magnificent ways that she’s entered our lives and given Direction and guidance and some of the Practical applications that we can all use to access her love and medicine and then we were just talking briefly about how apt it is that she was recently featured on the Empire State Building projected during a an endangered species slideshow production that that occurred and then at one of the Visionary artist Android Jones had a slide in there which is a beautiful collie face rendition and caused a bit of an uproar as you’d expect this is sort of a starting point to talk about this her she’s being called forth now to help us and if you don’t believe that you can look up the pictures didn’t see that you know it’s like the Batman signal or something so anyway that was my little brief intro and I normally would you please say thank you for joining us and please tell us about your background and in your path where to start my so first of all I I work I work pretty heavily with just what I consider the energy of desire and being somebody who’s been on a non dualistic tantrik pot for as long as I can remember and I grew up in a traditional Hindu household and both of my parents are from India and I was raised here so a lot of my own path has been about bridging cultural differences and really diving into the energy of what I see as the collective Shadow and for me desire is something that is really capable of helping us to heal from that split that we tend to have between masculine and feminine Darkness and Light and and I think that Kali is a really as it’s kind of emblematic of what it could look like when those when those pictures are heel and when the split is healed and we and we stopped being in conflict with ourselves and and so a lot of the work that I do is around healing our healing our connection with our sexuality healing our connection desire and my website is sacred fire coaching.com because because I do believe that our desire is the sacred fire that lives within us and it’s our responsibility as incarnate beings 210 that fire so that’s a little bit about 10 of the work that I do and I can talk a little bit more about that later but insurance if my own path I would I would say that it’s it actually comes from pretty ancient lineage and my family is from South India and there’s a long line of country cuz in the area both of my parents are from a lot of Hindu Tantra practice today can be found in South India and a lot of these practices are related to the 10 wisdom goddesses who are known as the Mojave Diaz and they’re very prevalent in a lot of different forms of Tantra and Kali is one of them so these goddesses are revered in South India and by far the most strongly maintain tan tradition in South India is his status Street as yet and she is Supreme goddess and a lot of practitioners in the street of your tradition including people in my family tends to be married householders and often there’s a family tradition of practice but being a woman is South Asian descent who was raised and the West I grew up in California back to Tantra has been its it happened been as direct it hasn’t been a part of this unbroken lineage and in fact I would say that that Tantra is still something that in in India in a lot of traditional Hindu family it’s really still seen as kind of a a dark path and there are still a lot of just as misunderstandings about Tantra abounds in the West on there’s a lot of misunderstanding about Tantra in the East and I think a lot of that comes from just you know Colonial attitude two words the way that the body and sexuality and certain spiritual practices were four kind of conveyed so a lot of I would say that a lot of Hindus in a lot of Indian people in general have kind of internalized those attitudes so so like I said before my path back to Tantra has a lot to do with my own exploration of desire and sexuality and desire and sexuality as a rigorous spiritual so I’ve always been interested in sex and sexuality and actually since I was very very young back when nobody in my family talks about it and if the same time because I I grew up in a household where devotion Devotion to god and goddess were really kind of a part of our daily existence I I was always in an environment that was very overly spiritual actually one of my earliest I wanted to be a nun and I wasn’t Christian nobody in my family was Christian but I remember just reading about female nuns and Mystics and being so drawn to this idea of devoting myself body and soul to God so I have always been on a path that I’ve considered devotional and that I’ve considered a path of surrender and that gradually grew into a worship of the dark goddess and all of her forms as mahakali as inanna Ishtar as as the Virgin of Guadalupe and that was actually really connected to my own discovery of feminism and goddess worship as a way of bringing the salmon in back into spiritual practices so so over time I was really interested in how the dark goddess encourages us to dissolve our boundaries between the sacred and the profane and I think that that’s what led me to Tantra and in addition a lot of my former work I used to be a Rape Crisis counselor and so I’ve worked with a lot of women who have felt just generally wounded and disconnected from their own essential sexuality and sensuality and a lot of my work has been without healing. Chasm and I for me working with collie and working with different forms of the dark goddess has been immensely healing I I really can’t even put that into words and end this this really comes from my own experience of how many women and it isn’t just women it’s also none how many of us have been wounded by a pervasive cultural attitudes about sex and sexuality and the sex is an extremely powerful force and the time because I knew this and they know it and and they work with it and incredible and hoping ways but sex is also something that’s a power that can be misused and as women we we often use that power in ways that don’t serve us and we use it to to do things like we to make people fall in love with us for instance where to use sexuality as a weapon because in many ways text has been used as a weapon against us and very few of the women that I’ve ever met has have worked with their sexuality as a source of pleasure and is a source of achieving Union ecstatic Union with the Divine so that’s that’s been a really big interest of mine how do we how do we move towards sex and desire to do that and also another really important aspect is my pot that I kind of alluded to earlier is looking at this experience of being bicultural this experience of growing up in two completely different traditions and and Bridging the Gap because I do think that Eastern forms of thought like Tantra obviously we’re seeing them becoming more and more popular and more and more needed and the west and at the same time there’s there’s just been a lot of really interesting stuff that’s been happening in India in particular and other places where traditionally women haven’t held over positions of power and where there really is still a lot of suppression as far as sexuality goes it’s amazing that India’s this place where Tantra and the Kama Sutra came out of but at the same time there are still horrific attitudes towards women are still bride burning since honor killings and end public rate end so I think that we really we really need to come to an understanding that that Bridges the disconnect that exists and it and I think this isn’t just a disconnect that’s about east and west and our attitudes towards sexuality and body and spirituality it’s a deeper and deeper conflict that’s being healed and it’s a conflict that I think lives inside the human consciousness and that collie and got us have to have the profound power to really heal so so a lot of the work that I’m doing is that the dressing that dualistic split again you know between nature and civilization masculine light and dark and I’m really interested in accessing your life force which is it’s the erotic nstemi accessing the erotic it’s it’s a spiritual act it’s a political act on it’s what we can do to claim our freedom as creative beings and I’ve really seen magical things happen we can act without energy and I’ve seen that happen in my own life and just to give you a little bit more background about myself about 7 years ago or so I was in a marriage that was falling apart and everything looked great on the outside I have been with my partner for close to a decade and something was missing and I didn’t know exactly what and I felt so guilty that I can be in this marriage that where everything looks perfect on the outside but inside there was something essential that was missing that I couldn’t put a name to I’m so I buried that understanding three years and years and and finally at some point the entire relationship just kind of exploded and it was like goddess herself came into my life and and shown this Stark light on to everything that I had built and and I felt like I was falling apart and it was a revelation and it was very difficult for me at that time and I think it’s that way of guilt and shame this this sense of internal knowing that there’s something that’s missing and I look back on that time now and I know that what was missing was my sense of connection to pleasure and desire and two goddess really to the feminine I think that that weight of guilt and shame of wanting and longing for this thing that we don’t have words for it it keeps so many women from tapping into the full extent of who they are and they’re afraid to even admit to it so I would say that my my real talk begin with just acknowledging my desire technology that there was a desire that was not being mad and it was not being that in the context of that marriage so after that I I would stay the night I went on an odyssey that involved Tantra it involved doing some somatic therapy sexological Bodywork and seeing what has been frozen inside me and this experience with Awakening and another itself and I really wanted to share that with other women and so many of the women that I have worked with had really similar stories and another thing that I’ve discovered that’s been remarkable is that a lot of the women I’ve worked with have kind of come into their own relationship with goddess and we’re really finding you know we can’t we can’t divorce our sexuality from our sense of connection to God has for my sense of connection to the universe and to each other and I think that would have been recognizing the night I should say that I work primarily with women but I’ve also worked with men and I’m seeing this awareness and then also is that we are seeking to make our ecosystem harmonious we’re tired of being in conflict with ourselves and we want a sexuality and a spirituality and creativity and community that are all integrated where we don’t have to leave any part of ourselves out answer me with the work that I’ve done in Tantra and with my own practices that involves connecting with collie she she is that energy she is fat energy of you know what here’s this is this is who you are this is all of you take it all you know the good the bad the ugly the things that you perceived as beautiful things that you perceive is garbage and use it because it’s yours and that for me has really been the gift of working with Tantra and being on this path wow thank you so much I’m just like smiling like ramakrishna this whole time here he missed that one photo that’s like so ecstatic and blissed-out the love of the mother just is so intoxicating and yeah yeah this is so beautiful for me to hear especially the did you see at the intensity I mean I’ll tell you that a lot of the time for that I was exposed to four years didn’t go anywhere near Shadow work or collie and when it’s when she was finally you know various when she entered my life very forcefully but yet beautifully I realized how much well just started to scratch the surface of what was missing from the westernized you know hyper-sexualized Tantra that’s not really getting into the deep Shadow work so yeah I really appreciate just having you on this in this conversation and if you don’t mind before we get into the the yantra if I could just Explorer some of my questions for you about Kali and how how she can be accessed and what some of her roles are ya so like I said I was going to learning Township techniques and breathwork and eye gazing and meditation and chakras and Kundalini stuff and and and it was just sort of well divorced from Sedona and goddess worship and so you know the encountering of in the wind a true just to passionate Devotion to the goddess for how much love there is there in one set started to pour into my life and when you know female sort of priestesses were starting to enter my life to initiate me and connect me that way I started going on a frenzy of really studying this force of nature that’s beyond words really beyond the iconic symbol of her standing on Shiva really that’s just a map but it’s not the terrain the terrain of her flesh in her being in her dimensions are so vast you know they’re unspeakable and I’ve gotten deeper and deeper into exploring her boundlessness and I’m curious as SUV gun into your ritual practice of of worship how how would you describe visual experiences an emotional and embodiment experiences send just a sort of narrative Beyond iconography that you’ve experienced too kind of compare notes you know I’m saying about that for hours yeah it’s it’s I think there’s always kind of this interesting experience that that we have when we decide to devote ourselves to particular path or even to a particular deity there’s you know kind of navigating that c of contradictions that all of the stories all of the lore all of the imagery on the experiences you hear about other people having there’s all of that that’s kind of floating and the Consciousness and I think it’s particularly complicated with Kali because she’s she’s so she represents a paradigm that to me is about moving beyond Orthodox representation socially Downs ideas of what’s good are appropriate so in some ways she’s she’s she’s really hard to represent and you know I’m constantly reading descriptions of Kali at that I that I think are grossly mistaken and I just a kind of I picked this up in park in preparing for this interview I was doing a bit of research and I was and I noticed that there was an Encyclopedia Britannica it describes collie as the major Hindu goddess whose I can. she calls in mythology commonly associate her with death sexuality violence and paradoxically and some of her later historical appearances motherly love which I think is really funny because I don’t think any of that is paradox in some ways and comprehensible and so I I would actually say that eyes my relationship with Collies when that is I mean how can it not be informed by certain cultural ideas of who she is whether those are coming more from Orthodox Hindu ideas of who she is and I should say that I grew up in a household that very much revered Kali and and and Shiva in particular they were they were on the present so there were lots and lots of beautiful pictures of collie with her necklace with severed skulls and it was always really funny when I had friends coming over to my house and they see these pictures and it’d be like oh my God that’s that’s so creepy that’s so messed up like why do you have these pictures up in your house and I I really agree with a with an enormous amount of reverence for these images which you know that they might look violent on the outside but they’re just they’re just representations you know their representations of things that exist within each and every one of us then and I always for me I always felt that was that was the beauty of it the beauty was in was in the imagery that that didn’t just fit didn’t just done represent her as being kind of the docile nurturing mother but there’s love these in here there’s love even in this and I really grew up with that understanding so none of that snooze paradoxical but at the same time a lot of Hindus will say oh well, he is actually really loving there is no there is no ferocious aspect beer I think that still persist even among people who do follow her and I think that it’s really important to it’s really important to see that so that her love is all encompassing it it really it’s her love is is her dancing in the Charnel grounds it’s her cutting off illusion at its roots it’s her frankly doing all the shit that we humans don’t want to do that we don’t want to face and I think I really I’ve really discovered Kali in my body in my dreams there’s a very there’s a personal relationship that I’ve had to develop with collie that’s about yes it’s about entertaining the way that she appears in the world and imagery and iconography and I think that there’s a place for all of that but it never became quite real to me until I experienced her for myself until I experienced myself in her grip well yeah well I think that the the story that you read that I wrote it was it was about coming face-to-face with her during I guess what I could describe as being a Dark Night of the Soul on at a time in my life where I felt completely alone and in many ways forsaken by just the spiritual practices that I had had and it was just a really it was a very lonely. My life and I didn’t have a spiritual community that I could really share this with and the most intense experience I had is coming face-to-face with Mama was it’s so appropriate it was during my first Ayahuasca Journey and and I it’s it’s funny sometimes when I described that Journey to the people that they’re just horrified because it really felt like I was coming I was coming face-to-face with death with my dad with the death of everything that I had held to be stable and fixed and everything I thought of as being me and and I think it’s really it’s important of course to remember that collie Collies name is it comes from the Sanskrit root for time and there’s nothing that is skates you know the march of time there’s nothing that escapes her and so and I do think of calling is being a goddess of death but I I’ve always seen it as being the death of the ego and that was that was kind of the experience that I that I had and I which is not to say that I think my ego is completely dead or the even that I wanted to be completely and totally different conversation altogether but but I really felt that this this experience that I had of coming face-to-face with her was about overcoming all of these ideas that I had about who I was and I think that when we become encased in those ideas those ideas become a prison and we don’t allow ourselves to grow into what we could be we don’t allow ourselves to move in the direction that our souls urine for and so I it was it was an incredibly on uplifting experience it was the experience of I’m dying and and also understanding that part of me that is eternal that that is not my you know the part of me that is not my body and not my personality and not my ego which is not to say that that stuff is in the gated because I cannot have that experience was just an even deeper appreciation for everything that I do have all of these tools that I do have at my disposal and I just remember coming out about journey of being sort of like wow I have have this body and you know like my body does all this amazing stuff that’s so cool and there was a sense of. Being you know a face of this this larger being that I am but I bet that’s part of the mystery it belongs to the mystery just as she lives in a mystery and I kind of felt that little journey into my death was this this this beautiful on kind of sojourn into that deeper mystery where you know everything that we believe about ourselves is is just untrue on and it’s it’s interesting cuz it feels like to me that was ego obliterating but it was also on I would say that it’s the most loved that I’ve ever felt it’s the most I’ve ever felt and it was in it wasn’t it was coming to me and it was moving through me and I was that love and if anything it felt like it just it it made me so much bigger then I then I ever knew was possible and that’s me is is just kind of stuff ultimate that’s the ultimate encounter with her she shows you how small your ideas of yourself really are there so puny know who you think you are and what you believe you’re capable of compared to the reality which is just so vast it’s it’s like you know if we settle we settle for so little in terms of our lives than 10 we settle for safety but I but I do think that with the soul wants is that experience of vastness and that experience is moving in to know the places that we fear which I kind of like the veil in front of the vastness you know you got it you have to move through that in order to get to in order to get to that place where you like oh yeah this is it this is this is the experience that my soul has been hungering for and I was the experience that I knew I was hungry for when I was in this dead-end marriage where everything like the future had been written it was everything had been predicted I know I could cross it all off my to-do list and die happy according to someone else’s standards of what that happiness was but I would never have gotten to that to that place to that place of you know feeling this Indescribable love the love that comes through when you’re willing to surrender your ideas of who you are and what your life is supposed to look like and said that experience that’s a very that’s that’s always going to be a personal experience for anybody and it’s going to look different for everybody and I’ve got to say that was that was fairly recent in my life and I honestly don’t know that I that I really knew Kali was before that I had an idea I had a deep reverence for her but I wasn’t touched by her in quite the same way as I was when I allowed myself to go into this experience and allowed myself to say yes I’m okay I’m okay with my dad so just to sort of Jump Ahead a little bit I think there are a lot of different ways to really make a connection with her to get in contacts but I do think that one of the quickest route is is Ayahuasca if if any of your listeners are so inclined it seems to be kind of a direct a direct line to her and and I think

Empowered Love Shadow Work with Shiva Rajaya TPP40


tp-shiva-rajaya-picIn this episode I’m joined by my cherished tantric superhero Shiva Rajaya. We discuss empowered methods of dancing with the shadows of love and eros. We also discuss the levels of refinement and discpline required to be in a sexual and romantic flow state, beyond typical closed relationship configurations.


About Shiva:
Hi! I am Shiva Rajaya (Francisco Bujan), creator of vitalcoaching.com and its content. I offer coaching and tantra sessions, lead workshops and travel the world on wild spiritual adventures I coach, teach, activate, lead by example, merge with the ultimate life force thay sustains us. I give you tools to remove obstacles to total happiness, success or fulfillment of your deep potential. My life is an ongoing exploration and experiment to master my energy, mind and spirit and help others do the same. I love you and look forward to connect with you soon.


How to Have Sex Like a God TPP17


medibation-video-buttonIn this episode I read an essay I originally wrote several years ago to document my study of Francesca Gentile’s Sex, Tantra, and Kama Sutra Podcast. After listening to every episode I felt compelled to summarize the highlights of what I learned and create a simple introductory practical guide to spiritually conscious sexual union. I recently revised it for publication at the Good Men Project, and I’ve recorded a spoken word version here.