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Loving Big in the COVID-19 Era with Alexandria Foxxcroft TPP258

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In this episode some joined by my esteemed colleague in mindful preparedness Alexandria Foxxcroft for an exploration of strategies to remain calm, peaceful, and loving amidst the chaos

About Alexandria:

Alexandria is a health educator and proponent of positive sexuality and mindfulness. With her skills and interests combined, she lovingly guides herself and others to deeper, more meaningful levels of pleasure and intimacy while holding space for life’s modern demands. You can find her art, life, and play on: https://www.instagram.com/alexandriafoxxcroft/

My Non Verbatim Show Notes:

always a pleasure to collaborate and talk with you

what I’ve been up to since we last chatted on the podcast, I’m not living and performing vegas

volunteer at positive sexuality conference, that’s how we first got to talking

come full circle

as we are facing something completely unprecedented, corona virus, las vegas pretty much all shut down, casinos closed, hotels empty , strip is quiet, many people out of work, staying home, grocery store shelves are empty, some people panicking, upset, other peoples treating it summer break I get to rest, haven’t had a break from work for 5 years

for me, household, partner and I have enough to get us through some time, staying out of public spaces the best as we can, safety practices, staying connected to family, to loved ones, really enhancing my mindfulness practices, more yoga, more water, more baths, indulging in little things, those treats that might not seem all that important, really taking care of myself, stress lowers immune systems, be gentle with myself and others, think about that, everyone is going through this

we’re all experiencing these new stress levels, horizon, that’s not clear, extend a smile, be kind generous, take care of number one

I do really appreciate that being mindful of the media that we consume is very important right now, easy to get swept away, find trusted sources to check in with a couple times a day so you’re informed, don’t let the fear get in the way of your ability to respond with thought and intelligence

stay occupied, attending to our basic pleasure needs, something I am welcoming into my life as well, its a nice time to kind of say, I don’t need to be afraid, I don’t need to shy away from sex work and being an online presence that can show a healthy sexy intelligent spiritual way of holding my own in a sexual manner, being able to support your cam workers and entertain yourself and help them keep food on the table, past couple days been home thinking about ways to make money and keep the public engaged, keep myself engaged, account on chaturbate, played on that a bit last night, new platform for me, so many things that go on with it, mad props to everyone who’s able to do it and have fun with it, will leave that link with you, we’re all stuck in side, it’s nice to have some fun

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as you sit there or you’re laying or you’re in a state where you can come to pause, just enjoy that pause, feeling your breath, feeling your body, coming into awareness, just yourself, recognizing that you individual are part of this global universal collective, you person listening are a link in this beautiful web, multicolored, multitextured multipatterned fabric that makes up our entire being, attune to yourself, give yourself that love compassion, that permission to be, to be still, to be tender, to be nervous, happy excited, anxious, loving and loved, however you are, you are allowed to just be present with that, know that whatever is happening within your being, some one else is experiencing that as well, move outside of yourself and offer that love to someone, someone who’s easy to give love to, parent, child, friend, lover, teacher, stranger, offer them love however they are,

gentle quite acknowledgment, I see you, moving on to another, someone who when you think about them, feelings not so easy to touch on, acknowledge them as a human, encountering whatever life experiences they will encounter today, they are part of this beautiful tapistry, they are part of our story, offer them love, acknowledge their existence as part of this whole as we pass others, think about others through our day, acknowledge them as human just as we are, offer them love, peace and compassion, you seeing them will lead us through these dark times

it will help bolster you against anything that comes your way, every individual has a story, their own psychodrama, no need to take it personally, just acknowledge them as human, a link in this chain, take care of yourself let them take care of themselves, just be, be present, give yourself permission to slow down and recognize yourself as this beautiful beam of light, may not feel it but you are it, breath, breath connects us to our source, connecting to source allows us to align, allows to make decisions with more kindness, this is what we need right now, we call you to be your highest self so you can respond intelligently to anything that comes your way, in closing I uplift you I see you, may you feel held and not alone, inhale, exhale to release all doubt and all worry, inhale compassion and peace, namaste

Sexy Mindfulness in Lifestyle and Livelihood with Alexandria Baker TPP149

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In this episode I’m blessed to be joined by Alexandria Baker for an exploration of the many sexually and spiritually informed and empowered dimensions of her lifestyle and livelihood. She’s a southern California sex educator, Hatha yoga instructor, ethical luxurious natural beauty and skin care entrepreneur, model, and performance artist.

She’s one of the most impressive tantric renaissance women I’ve yet to discover. She shares her personal story of healing, liberation, and empowerment and we discuss the positive impacts she’s having with all of her endeavors. She’s on the forefront of changing the old sex negative paradigm as she brings the healing light of mindful sex and love into the scientific, medical, entertainment, and natural product sectors and beyond.

Please visit her website and Youtube channel at:

https://www.fromalexandria.com/

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcTemJEFn3GVpGuCbJnu6Yg

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Tantra Punk your guide to sexual Liberation healing and empowerment as a certified Tantra counselor and certified permaculture designer I’m here to help you grow spiritually sexually and ecologically my online and in-person counseling sessions and training programs are price to fit any budget I’m looking forward to helping you design and ever more Divine Life Path please send me an email to Ben at Tantra Punk. Com and our journey together will begin podcast episode number 149 I’m being joined by Alexandria Baker of from Alexandria. Come she is a Southern California sex educator Hatha Yoga instructor ethical luxurious natural skincare and beauty products entrepreneur she also does modeling and performance are and she reached out to me as a podcast listener and fan of the show I’m to connect and talk about sex in mindfulness and she’s going to be doing a presentation at the upcoming positive sexuality conference which I believe the registration is closed so may not be able to get in for that but hopefully I don’t know if you’ll be getting a recording of that or just just in general a good plug to connect with the the center for positive sexuality the episode previously that Alexandria connected to from the podcast was the one I did with Emily Pryor where we talked all about that hurt past and the history of the the center for positive sexuality which is a great resource and something you should definitely connect with so yeah with all that said I just like to get it started with Alexandria you sharing your your personal background and how you have become ethical luxurious proprietress of so many wonderful things in the world oh my goodness thank you so much for having me on your show first of all then I have been listening intently for about a year and a half maybe two years and this has been a great guide to my journey in my Awakening especially as it relates to sex in mindfulness and I a little bit about me I grew up on the edge of a very health minded yet religious town and I had to make my own pass and figure my own way out when it comes to relating to myself in relationships and sex and we never had any sex ed class in sexual relationships were something that we’re seeing that as deviant so that he didn’t fit with my mindset and it was pretty hush-hush but I’m glad to have had a partner who is offsets a metal frame and so we were able to explore it safely and lovingly which one another and as I grew up and matured and sound different ways of relating to others on a deeper level meditation yoga became primary practices in my life and with that I was able to you start diving into Tantra and bringing meditation into the bedroom and a way of baby centering and focusing with my lover is sad that has allowed me to experience sex in a way that is transformative an incredibly healing and beautiful container of self-discovery and meeting a higher self and allowing and sharing this with the person or the persons who are are held in that beautiful container of intimacy has the background as far as this texted mindfulness-based my ethical vegan body products it’s a bit different where I grew up dealing with a lot of allergies and skin issues I had pretty bad acne throughout high school and my first few years of college that Led Tech old hatred unfortunately and feeling myself as less than and it was really frustrating because I wouldn’t know what these flare-ups what these bumps what these rashes were coming from and as I became more in tune with myself in my center and focusing on my eating practices and being a bit more cleaner and more aware of what I was putting into my body orally I noticed that there are certain things that would trigger my allergies and from they’re growing up as a pescatarian and I realized this was one of my triggers and I cut out of my diet and wheat was another trigger as with soy and these were things that were primary parts of my diet and as I was looking at the ingredients on skin care that I was purchasing these were primary ingredients on the backs of these natural products not so much fish oil base emulsifiers and its present in a lot of stuff and a lot of things that I would find at the grocery store so I set out to make my own yummy low ingredient allergen-free body product so that I could take charge of my house and my skincare as I was doing with my diet and I love how I can get into the kitchen and create something with my hands using products that are natural from this Earth mango butter and Argan better than hemp seed butter is really delicious things that are full of wonderful antioxidants and vitamins and amino acids that will help heal and regenerate the skin and sensing it with wonderful organic acid call essential oils that are designed to take you on a journey and so I am someone who is very much attracted to things of the senses especially with sent and this became part of my practice that I would then bring into the bedroom and massager with sexual lubricant so that I Ed Sheeran with myself on a personal level but also with lovers and with friends so that we could all enjoy the process of self-care and self-love that comes from using products that are made with love with house and goodness in mind for yourself ads there are and allowing us to share that self-care practice those beautiful thank you so much Bravo and that you deserve a round of applause for that it’s always so texting when a person’s business is the journey of self healing and exploration and there’s a whole country edition Nike archetypal tradition of the Wounded healer where in order to understand whatever you are elements or issues maybe you sort of Blaze the trail to did the discovery and then you’re always from that wound or that one being like you’re saying the you know they’re conscious the way it affected your your self concept in to be able to transcend that and then leave from that place of healing very personal place that always has a much more how much deeper story to connect with four people who were enjoying the products so I appreciate that you were weaving it with the sexuality peace and and Tantra and I feel like that is the direction we need to go for people to put as much give as much personhood to their lower half of their body is to the upper half friend that know the public Parts in the private parts need to be more Eric Moore cared for with all this so that’s wonderful said you want to talk about as a sex educator what what types of offerings do you have enough in that area I would love to I want to bring two people and what I do bring to people is caring for the soul and caring for the south in the partners and being extremely communicative in line for with the individual that you’re seeing in the SEC space as well as yourself and eventually that concept of individual melts away and you become one and the one becomes this everything and to really bring that concept little by little Earth the person’s ready to just dive into it I want to share that beauty and that loves because from there we can have a higher vibration out in the world when we see that everyone’s connected everyone is this love everyone has that part of themselves that is from that the higher order and it’s also about going into the practices of kink in a mindful Safeway and being conceptual Mulberry microwave with communication and being safe in all rounds possible so I work with Planned Parenthood and I also work with the center for positive sexuality so that we can get the how fast facts out there making sure you’re getting your STI checks and being a safe and productive as possible to keep you and your community healthy and also diving into you Kingston leaves sectors of sex that we don’t necessarily talk about his friends or in in a larger sense anyway that’s outside of the internet really so I’m I’m trying to move this conversation in a way that allows people to recognize that sex is beautiful sex is natural we’re here because of sex and every day there millions of sexual encounters that were happening and even if half of those or not his love and positivity how much more Blissful would this world be I can only imagine and we’ll help you out that’s amazing so you are really in a deeply embedded in the does the infrastructure to bring this to people so again I applaud you for that it’s it’s definitely that piece of being able to get as wild as you can possibly imagine but also be anchored in the medical health aspect of sexuality is a rare thing to find a fun place you know why there’s these types of nonprofits exist to help people have safe guidelines in DUI yeah what are some of the without obviously you know disclosing anything to to confidential or private do you want to talk about some of the patterns of issues that you are helping people confront some of the things that you feel are like most in the Forefront of modern times of what people are dealing with and what feels like it needs the most care and attention these days for me when I work with women I share a lot of how do I tell my partner that I want X Y and Z and it’s you talk to them we have these conversations and we do so in a setting where everyone is able to feel her and everyone is able to have their needs met via communication and via the practice and it’s as I was going through my own sexual experiences and listen to my friends talked about their own women and I I don’t want to overgeneralize by I am a woman I identify with she her pronouns this is the perspective that I can give women have been told to be in a more submissive role and to be the ones who are the acceptors of the actions put upon us and that Austin time sitting or laying or attempting to be present with things that are painful things that are degrading things that don’t make us feel good at the end of our experience or through our experience and so what oftentimes happens is that we check out we lose touch with this part of ourselves that when conscious can illuminate so much within us that extends outside of the bedroom and so what I want to do and what I aim to do is turn people on to that Consciousness and that excitement and Zapp part of themselves that wants to be present and aware of the sexual experience and when it comes to Healing traumas that often times needs to be done solo and so we’re going to feel just your fingertips touching your clavicle or what it’s like to caress your own cheek how it feels to tug on your earlobe or touch your toes spread your toes with your fingers to the beautiful experience of self massage that doesn’t even have to do with genital contact and then once you’re comfortable with feeling and experiencing our bodies moving onto or moving in tear touching touching are genitals and really experiencing that Yoni pleasure and breast massage and feelings that are on my nipple so that we can become conscious with the sexual Awakening and that can then be brought into the sphere with partner Partners if that’s what the person wants and so that comes with knowing yourself so that you can then communicate oh honey I feel better when you touch me lighter I appreciate that you’re so enthusiastic but let’s think our breathing so that we can slow down and when we’re able to communicate our once in our needs in a loving way that shows that we like what our partners doing or maybe need to shift it so that both of us can enjoy the sexual experience can be fulfilling for all parties involved awesome well I just kind of have been on a journey as Siri speaking at they have a very very effective way of bringing people into that that a conscious State and you know something that stands out for me that you mention and we’ll gets kind of more into the the realm of classical Shamanism I guess you could say would would be that he knows very Translating that notion of checking out when you feel kind of misused or abused or that that process is what is often referred to in that shamanic you know that this course is being where the soul starts to break apart in what you’re actually losing alcohol at some people call it so lost some people call it Soul theft if the intention that is predatory on the end of somebody harming someone else in really it’s like your slices of your of your deep tissue of your soul or are being broken apart I mean there’s different metaphors for it it’s kind of amorphous because you can see it’s part of the astral plane or it’s sort of a different dimension of our being but you know what when when I hear you speak about that it it really reminds me that it’s not it’s in addition to really predatory kinds of abuse it can also just be like you’re saying very subtle forms of Disconnect where it’s kind of abrasions if not you no fractures but there’s a different degrees of wounding on the Flesh and there’s different degrees of warming on the soul so it’s so important to have that communication yeah thank you for doing that work and do you also in your practice do you also bring in yogic exercises and and what kind of two obviously tantric breathwork and meditation visualization chakras Kundalini kind of experiences has really loud me to connect with the power of the brass and the practice of life force and when we’re able to get in touch with that and not fear it but be able to really experience the belly breaths and feel like chest expand in our clavicles rise within Halen our shoulders are ribs pulling and connecting us to that deeper awareness that we can bring into all avenues of our life and when we are able to do these breathing exercises and that’s actual around with our cells are with our partner that helps us connect and experience that unity in that one that’s done that aliveness of the world in ourselves and with certain Austin as I’m certain slow as you can get into a delicious juicy practice and I have recently been doing is incorporating the Yoni egg into my practices and I also do aerial arts and so bringing this into my performance and bringing it into my personal yoga practice has been a deeper Awakening in a deeper way to get in touch with with my divine feminine in a way that I am so so grateful exist so when I can bring that to other people and show them that our sexuality are being very sacred and there are these practices that really help us connect to that design beautiful essence of our feminine and of our every Universe we can hear ourselves and she’ll each other and Heal the World I totally agree with that and yeah this is this synthesis of more clinical sexological sector of like what you’re doing and Planned Parenthood and what a lot of sex educators are doing in high schools and college settings and you know about for everything from gender studies and basic awareness of politics and language of gender and in and that Roman and then addressing Rape Crisis centers and just bringing more Consciousness to all these different car in points where people are either Contracting diseases or having unwanted but unplanned pregnancies or experiencing abuse I feel like the the future opportunity or potential would be that people like you doing what you doing what will actually sort of get through that that filter in that mesh of the western clinical mindset which is you know I’ll save kind of just as a little side note here that it’s it’s really challenging sometimes to bring the deeper spirituality peace through that framework because understandably these more clinical models they want to be cross-cultural they want to not give her any particular practice which could alienate anyone or offend anyone so it’s always got to be super you know white coat medical clipboard and you know charts on the wall but what what I think will happen is that there will eventually be chakra charts alongside the muscular and skeletal and me all the anatomy chart going to clinical office and it’s why I believe yeah it’ll be people like you were going to be able to bring more mindful in the mindfulness is probably the best way to translate without getting too mystical or we were so how does that is that I love to know if you have been able to sort of ethically hack if you will that and Bridge you know probably a friend of your word but yeah any luck with that Kylie it’s actually really exciting and I think that my education has and continues to find me for being able to flirt with a associate clinical medical and also going into the more spiritual BGC practices and More in line with the kids in the key Delaney and experiencing things and energetic mediums within our bodies and working through ceiling that way but there’s also that when they hear anything that has totally turns them off and I get it I understand so there is a way to connect with that secular standpoint and my aim in life is to continue receiving education so that I can be the highest level practitioner in all rooms that I can be and my background is in Psychology and wonderful University that I went to allowed me to do studies that were I certainly more colorful than what most have probably done there but I was able to internet of yoga studio and I did my final thesis on psychedelics and sacks Professor was not super enthused about it but she was like okay well if you can do it do it and I did it and I learned a lot and I also was able to present it and present these fabulous studies super shout out to Maps doing awesome work and present these studies to people who hadn’t heard of psychedelics outside of just drugs are bad don’t do them kids here is your brain on drugs and explain how to fry and clay static and is able to link these parts of ourselves that we might not have touch with on a daily basis I am learning in finding ways to integrate the research with experience and with people’s conversations with me and what I see out in the fossil or Elmer out in I do performance also in the club scene and so just taking it within all of these different sectors that I live and I working but bring it back to something that will allow Society to see it in a way that is valuable and has the research behind it and so I love research I love studies I love being able to show data and show that mindfulness practices when done repeatedly on a consistent basis do you have it leads to Lasting positive change and anxiety reduction and increases people’s ability to socialize and helps with all sorts of Health markers that lead to longevity and a more positive outlook on life and currently the Western American model is one that looks at symptoms that looks at Ole Miss it looks at things that are wrong and we need to heal from totally I get that but what I want to do and what I have been doing in my research is looking at what what do we do what who are the people who are most successful and happy in their relationships and who are the ones who are the most resilient who steals from unimaginable traumas to go on to do things that are able to lie to last and change not only in themselves but also in the greater world what what are those characteristics and how can this happen to that type of human potential I’m so sexy psychedelics is another way so is talk therapy in for some medication is necessary and it’s not necessarily the route that I don’t but I have certainly seen cases in which it has helps a person clear away the clouds so that they can practice and they can get into these ways of being that help them live without the drugs or Pharmaceuticals I should say and why my journey is one that is towards Madison I’m aiming to become a doctor but I don’t just want to be an MD I want to be a DL a doctor of osteopathy so that I can treat the whole person with the ability to look at what’s really going on socially culturally it’s far as the diet there their exercise practices how what’s their stress level like so that I’m not just looking at these markers on charts but seeing them as a whole human being and able to help them gain independence day that control over their life what galaxy did you come from Mississippi out of this world I can’t thank you enough and crazy cuz this is really a synthesis of of all of the Maverick Rogue research that I have been conducting and and you know it at risk and so you know it’s it’s if I if I’m a kind of just the man to little bit about why and just to validate the work you’re doing this is so important because you know I can I’ll just kind of give a bit of a of a sidebar here so I have been somewhat religiously following Maps as work mainly through listening to all the episodes that have ever been released of the Psychedelic Salon podcast which has been cataloging And archiving not only the vast array of Terence McKenna talk switch your you know kind of comedic and entertaining is business in for his informative but also the history of maps and what in a lot of Rick doblin material and many other that the women’s Visionary Congress which is my favorite nonprofit in the world which brings in genetic research in practitioners amongst women in the underground really mostly in some some above ground as well or I don’t know exactly the balance of it but it’s it’s it’s so important for this type of work that the Psychedelic sexual healing in my in my sort of field or camping or to be in a and a higher conscious way medicalized not in a way of the way we medicalized anti-masturbation devices and drugs to kill libido and gay people and then that’s a whole nother shadow of Medicine of the medical establishment right is the when repression is codified in In The End by doctors and so many torture devices that have been created in the net and that shadow of this but in the more conscious and positive Ana where and spiritually informed manners that were talking about we really need as Country Acres and healers and King stirrers and everyone else who’s going into these these really funky places where we need a lot of help we need to work out a lot of issues together you know that the containers the spiritual safe containers that are designs for ceremony and ritual there that’s equally if not more important than the safety of the label on a drug in the warning label on a bottle of pills that mean that’s that’s what’s so interesting about what Maps is doing and the sort of this what Rak Rak razam kind of notice there studies that there’s the shamanic and this is shamanic psychedelic shamanic path of a revolution towards me no consciousness freedom of Consciousness and unconsciousness as a human right and then there’s the Psychedelic medical research which is about legalization in standardization of Doses and things that do not always an awesome opt-in cell or sell them work with you know the natural setting of shamanic ceremony where you’re taking a natural form of a plant and not a synthesized dose of a plant or something you know other material and so there’s a real it’s just a real important need to kind of find that happy medium for everybody where we can provide clinical medical safety and even things were sick if you’re going to do wild wild Kink or wild psychedelic shamanic ceremony in anything involving opening up deep wounds in the soul you should have maybe not an ambulance parked outside but certainly someone with first aid training yeah these are some of just stay she so do you want to talk about what you have planned for your sex in mindfulness presentation I think probably touched on how many things but if you don’t got to spoiler alert spoiler but just I’m just curious are like what you were what you were kind of synthesizing and in your your general kind of outline approach to initiating people in reducing answer to your medicine this is a secular conference room so I want to bring them a practice of mindfulness that they are able to connect with no matter what their background is so there will be some aspect of getting in touch with the body through the breast and getting in touch with the body through being aware of what is touching you and going into what mindfulness is what sex and mindfulness has to do with each other how we can bring mindfulness into the bedroom with ourselves are with our chosen partner and what cactus’s look like with the ones that we choose to have these experiences with as far as health concerns are the positive benefits meditation and other mindfulness practices that bring you into awareness of the present moment has been shown to give the practitioner lasting benefit as far as attention span and anxiety reduction and reducing like we had a depression it’s it’s really a beautiful thing and so I am going to do my very best to bring this to those who are attending the conference and choose disturbances I should say experience so I couldn’t help but notice on your Instagram that you’re very generous with your sensuality in in the photographic form that’s different Miley and which is exciting and for myself what I have been seeking in business partners and co-creative collaborators into people to share this so I would I believed to be a sexual Angelic Mission I mean that’s not the most secular words but you know there’s different words in different cultures for Heroes I mean hey we got nothing but super heroes coming out of the Hollywood you know Meme machine and so why not have sexual healing superheroes who have you know I’m super powers and that’s what we were cultivating with with with you know it’s time to practice is what they literally actually translate to two superpowers there was what they were called City uses you know how we would see the word now and in country scriptures but bringing this back to you know what I’ve noticed with your work and what how you present yourself online is but you were not daring bravely to seduce all hoof size fall upon you to be entranced in Enchanted to want to explore know you more and it would have that means clicking a like button and Court a follow or posting comments it’s an invitation to the world to engage with you and in that way and so many women and men but you know I’d say women are are they the ones with the multi millions of followers just on Instagram for one who are displaying the way that we would see animals in the wild the display with certain postures and certain gazing techniques and there’s this whole dance with the camera that is you know rhotic and I feel like it’s extremely powerful magic in a lot of people are not really fully conscious about how literally how much damage or how much killing big they can be doing with that power and certainly the people who own that Machinery have been for many you know for since photography existed they’ve been using it to sell poisons and unsustainable Prada the opportunity that I see you representing you know it’s very rare is that you have the Consciousness piece all these pieces put together and you are doing the seductive you know lens case with the lens in projecting yourself out to the world so you know I have more more time pack about that but I would like to pause and give you space to just share about how that feels for you and what your aspirations are in and what you’ve experienced so far and kind of like your take on that hole dimension of from sharing yourself a part of the entertainment industry for about five years now and it started with modeling and moved into Go-Go dancing and Performing Arts as far as the dance goes and now I’m finding a way to intersect all of that when I first started I was often times to eat only black girl on set the only one who needed my color foundation and as I excluded I felt I needed to find my own way and ice and so I began to take greater charge as my image in my presence and really be authentically myself and learn the makeup skills are in the hair skills start doing the costume designing but my partner at the time is a photographer and we started to have our own shoots with with models that we would find for my friends and then start to take a more more material charge of the performers who were a part of these other events that we were hosting or hoping to run and the Rave scene and doing things with other sectors of entertainment and as I began to work with Insomniac who hosts edc’s around the world I started to meet people who were more in line of my way of thinking of we can bring Beauty and light and figure and positivity into other people through the sphere through the space and Consciousness in many ways and within certain areas of the scene when I say seen I mean we’ve seen its Consciousness it’s really beautiful to get to share these experiences with people who also want to show love and give love and help people connect to love being onstage hundreds of thousands of people and there’s no doubt there is but there is something that is entry linking everyone and that we are all part of the same something and if so so beautiful and these experiences have connected me to photographers and other models who have shown me the ways of being embodied and being sexy but also being intelligent about it and that comes from other things that are part of my background but you’re presenting the parts of myself are presenting my whole self in a way that I can be proud of I used to be so nervous to post just my friends and I hanging out at the beach tonight and I want to share with people and show them that you can you can have this balance in this wonderful multi-layered expression of yourself where you are the academic are you are the physician or you are the teacher whatever role you give to yourself but you can also be in our bodies sexual person and allow all parts of yourself to come together so that you can you don’t have these conflicting parts of your person where you have to hide and you feel that sex is the shadow unfortunate part of yourself but bring it bring it to light and that’s the direction that I’m hoping to take this the modeling in the Performing is showing people that you can see your full authentic self and there are people who will accept and appreciate and receive healing from seeing that because they are given that permission to also do it and I do my best to be an online presence that is uplifting and cheerleader for the people who are doing this beautiful badass work beautiful awesome sex workers to the Educators to those who are just like having to like your post because I think you’re fabulous like here we are and ask to feed everyone the internet is expensive beyond all measure we can all be uplifted and shine and experience wonderful things from each other After experiencing ourselves and there is no room for competition in my sphere it’s all about love I encourage comments that will lead to good conversation not this I don’t want any of the call out the S I don’t want anything where people are putting other people down and we’re all trying we’re all doing our best let’s do it in a way that helps us learn helps us wake up and evolve and just in Courage other people to do the same Standing Ovation vs this is the kind of leadership this is the kind of sexual political leadership that we’re all starving for something that I share with you by email is that I’m no yeah technically in a business sense recruiting talent for a project which I feel is feel like an evolution of alt modeling you could say and evolution of all modeling would be to bring in role modeling where you’re not just looking quote bored and sad which is the direction that is given for a lot of people out of modeling set if you think of it from a tantra perspective in a magical respectively sake what are you what vibration are you cursing or buy you cursing or blessing us with your vibration and so there is people with Consciousness who want to do role modeling and actually want to teach something with they’re like oh yeah you want to look at my body great well here’s here’s me doing something useful to serve nature or served Humanity that is going to be actually a contagious meme of positivity and you’re going to learn something while you’re in a state of of arousal with my likeness and that is Magic that is like liquid cyber sex magic that is so powerful and so potent and it’s been used like I said what commercial has everything so why not why not promote the things that are most spiritually enriching invaluable and practical so like I would love to see for example in your case you’re making your beauty products in your lingerie and making instructional cooking shows and like DIY yeah right it would be if it’s always fun and Indian people used to staining that level of arousal you’re really actually from an early Mystic programming orner associative conditioning perspective you actually have literally melting there neurons and hardwiring them back into a position where the associate the positive constructive Behavior with what we all want to feel which sexual arousal like almost literally all the time and so I think that’s the magic potential and I see I’ve been torturing Myself by subscribing to all of these Instagram profiles of the models with millions of views and I just scan through and I see there is there literally doing absolutely nothing and nothing like they’re just standing someplace tonight and I appreciate especially when it’s doing nothing in nature but you could be doing something and be doing that something in it in a constructive setting and then and then the world will be changed literally overnight I mean if if if a fraction of the models on Instagram just did it like what would Vin Diesel did he did like a tree planting charity fund drive and so he leveraged is social capital of sexual Capital to get people in to Z Astic about nature and that’s the kind of stuff I think it’s just so so ripe to be explored and so you’re already fully inviting that yourself and I can only just see what would happen if more of the you know the resources that are going into production of art of all kinds really going that direction so you know that is my my public service announcement about this project that’s just my prayer at with this conversation is I don’t know what our individual or Collective Destiny will be but I do know that the the ingredients the natural ethical luxurious ingredients for all of these wonderful things they’re already being in there already in that cauldron and Emma and so again I I I thank you so much for it for reaching out and for sort of reinvigorating me in a sparking me that often Fades when I get really to moralize looking at what I’m up against and and then Jim’s come out diamonds in the Ruff and you certainly one of them so I I was send out those words of affirmation and also the the call-to-action that yeah everyone out there listening be your own erotic Rockstar model at the school ethical everything anything make a sexy naked find use the social media constructively and then we’ll all Rising tide will it will float all boats and lifts All Ships and so yeah so that Best Buy my closing words and prayers and please if you would take as much time as you desire to to balance the energy that says that I’m sharing if you will thank you so much for having me on this has been such a pleasure to explore how this works with your thoughts and to hear how oh my gosh I love that this has been a spark to you and that you are really wanting to continue on with your project of highlighting these beautiful fabulous women in light Warriors who share to heal through this form of social media and however else it’s presented in a very sexy and body play I love it I love it so much and I’m excited to see where that goes and I am so encouraging of any and all people no matter your expression Shine Your Light Let It Be bright there may be detractors there may be people who want to get you down but that’s part of the process and I am here there are people here to uplift and support you and encourage that Health in that gross mindedness is that is what is going to heal the world that is part of what heals the world and we can embody this beautiful sexy Miss with these more concrete practices of planting trees and sharing how we keep herself as free of STDs and STIs as possible and taking care of our health in other ways and these other wonderful practices that help our world go round and and ethical sustainable way I encourage it and invite all of you for interested to check me out on my personal Instagram at Alexandria Foxcroft looks like the animal with two x’s and Croft as in Laura Croft and that’s Alexandria Foxcroft on Instagram Alexandria Foxcroft. Cam is my site and or call begin luxurious body products from alexandria.com and from Alexandria is also my Instagram handle for that please come start a conversation with me I want to get to know you see what you’re doing Wachee support you on your journey and how do you be a part of mine because it is all lime and we are here to uplift and support and to love love is what it’s all about I think you again one last question for you are you do you have a YouTube or we will you be planning to do YouTube where you can give us more than one minute at a time on Instagram sped up yoga experiences in a little bit about who I am and he can find me on youtube.com from Alexandria I believe it is funny couple check cool and it’s pretty nail yes well I hope everything that we’ve spoken about that’s from your wheelhouse no life and I’ll certainly be a sharing that and I’m following that yeah I am from Alexandria but it looks like the channel URL is a jumble of letters and words American confined that and then and then also I don’t know if we got this but the two for people to connect with you wearing your sex educator and sounds like you’re doing sort of a practice of of coaching and counseling how would they is with a disconnect with you through your website from alexandria.com or is there another way to SeaWorld in those types of thumb Lance so you can connect via the website from alexandria.com or my direct email is Alexandria at from Alexandria. Calm and I will get to everyone who is interested in that Sexual Healing as quickly as I can and as fully as I can great awesome yeah I guess it’s 11:11 and that’s an auspicious time to say goodbye for now and I’ll see you next time we won today all right take care of podcast please go to www.crunch.com can cook on the Donate button to help support the show in addition is to see me and improving the podcast your donations will help establish permaculture goddess temples every by Tycho employment for single mothers Please Subscribe and share your favorite episodes if you have questions or comments feel free to leave a voicemail at 818-275-1593 or email bad at Tasha pump. Com Thomas gay

Daring to be Present with De Vie Weinstock TPP94

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In this episode I’m joined by de Vie Weinstock, a Consciousness Catalyst who teaches people to dare to be present with the wholeness of their being. We explore the vastness of ancient tantric lore and philosophy as well as the practicality of personal tantric practice beyond the genitals. Together we discover new hopes for positive transformation and conscious evolution!

About de Vie:

“What can be said about consciousness that has chosen to devote itself to an endless intimacy with presence? Devotion to the truth is not confined the stories of the world, or the stories of success. Who are we when we go beyond the stories —which are, after all, only stories? Then we are left with the conscious experience of this moment, whatever it may be. We are left with the unadulterated wholeness of the self, as it is, in ‘the world’ as it is.”

Under what conditions will you allow yourself to embrace truth? Through her Dare to Be Present® service, de Vie offers connection, support, & guidance on this path we are all on back to wholeness. Participants have experienced meditational inspiration and guidance as well as healing of chronic conditions such as stress and anxiety. In a world that still recklessly invests in the false appeal of endless stories, we have this opportunity to connect in reality, on the fertile ground of The Now. de Vie can be reached through her site at:

http://www.DareToBePresent.com/

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Tantra Punk your guide to sexual Liberation healing and empowerment as a certified Tantra counselor and certified permaculture designer I’m here to help you grow spiritually sexually and ecologically my online and in-person counseling sessions and training programs are price to fit any budget I’m looking forward to helping you design and ever more Divine Life Path please send me an email to Ben at Tantra Punk. Com and our journey together will begin hello dear beloved welcome to Township Punk podcast episode number 94 I am on Skype with 2 V Weinstock of dare to be present. Calm and she is a Consciousness Catalyst and we have been dialoguing over various social media platforms for a while now and she’s blessed me to have listened to a number of my podcasts and I’m always open to especially folks who are for putting in some time to listen to The Back catalogue so to speak you have to actually bring perspectives and and really fill in blanks in and always just bring their own and treat it like an open Forum so I appreciate the vu4 for reaching out and wanted to share I’m not I will I will let you fully describe your intentions and first if you would just start off by telling us a bit about your background and and your offerings and then we can talk about your desire to bring some of your perspectives into this form so with that said please go ahead tiny here and what I offer it’s called dare to be present and I work with people in supporting them in their process of Awakening and I feel we’re all in some sort of process of Awakening cuz it doesn’t end and I feel it’s a kind of evolutionary imperative if we make it collectively revolutionary Drive evolutionary drive and I’m here to support people consciously and intentionally in that process and it grows out of my own experience in studies really extensive studies and very much my own experience which is relevant because I’m pointing people back to their own experience were in a culture that is extremely mind focused and it’s basically awarded to be disengaged from our own experience and get all kinds of book knowledge I went to Harvard so I’ve got that whole book knowledge academic first-hand story and that just being a peek example of where our culture is at of overvaluing the analytical knowledge part of the mind to the detriment of the absolutely essential lived experience so my lived experience beyond all the studies I’ve done relevant to what I offer is that I’ve literally been in a state of meditation for over 20 years so extremely deep immersion into meditation very extreme time I’ve been in the world through that I have not gone and become a Hermit in the Himalayas I am chosen to be on that path of meditation immersion in the world which is not easy but it’s also related to the topic of your podcast on your work of Tantra because Contra is the hole so the path of Tantra is not going to say oh well if you’re a spiritual person you should have been the world in terms of what I offer I work with people one-on-one I sometimes offer groups I work with them in person in Ohio or in the Ohio area sometimes in LA and also over the Internet with video or over the phone and it’s there’s talking there’s some meditation it’s basically giving guidance into what is the person’s next step and next steps in Awakening to their precious inner being around Tantra I’d like to say when I when it’s appropriate that the sexuality Pieces Just one-seventh of the major chakra pie so I think nothing it’s seems bloated or over-represented in the so-called West in some people would say it’s because people are obsessed with it and other people say it’s because that’s where the the triage of the wounding is most needed so that the sort of the healing of the second chakra is what the West needs more than other places that say in the world might need it or other cultures might need it so yeah you were you have some sort of feelings in in opinions and I guess I don’t know if it would be like a form of A Treatise but by all means would be great to have a new perspective on balancing the balancing of the did the different modalities in in currents of energy within the ton truck systems Stout is to talk for a perspective that isn’t necessarily focused on the sexual act like in the service I offer I don’t mention Tantra anywhere and it doesn’t get into sex at all unless it’s something that a person is concerned about her asking about in which case it’s simply talking about it so just to be clear in terms of how I work with people that being said why I reached out is because there is this understandable but none the less worth pointing out overemphasis in the West in terms of Tantra that well it’s like a special way by having sex right and as you’re pointing out yeah that is valid but it’s also leaving Chris Watts leaving certain people because if someone has that preconception which is very easy to have then they’re like well I’m single or I don’t have anyone to do this with or like there is a self-limiting thing based on that perception of well I can’t engage in the path of Tantra because sex is not available to me which is a lot of people even if sex is available then whether or not is Tantra good question so there’s this other piece which goes well what is Tantra regardless of whether quote-unquote physical sex is in the picture not not to dismiss physical sex but the one word that sums up Tantra is yes it’s like the simplest explanation of Tantra because it’s a spiritual path and it’s a spiritual path that is not going down the division trip and so many spiritual paths are still doing that plenty of yoga pass or doing that I mean I’ve been at these meetings at these circles and I see it first-hand of a spiritual trip of let be divided and at war with ourselves and so the largest view of Tantra is it’s all included we don’t have to try to cut off certain aspects of herself and that’s why sex is emphasized because historically it’s been so cut off it still cut off and still is still very cut off but I think that’s part of why it gets emphasized because it’s one of the most glaring examples of an aspect of ourself that has been demonized but one of the things I very actively right about and work on with my clients is something like emotions quote unquote negative emotions which is another example where angers bad lust is bad. A. A. Depression is bad and that’s another aspect we had a question be like wait a minute the whole point of the spiritual path is Unity is wholeness how do we get there how does that work if we’re trying to get to wholeness by trying to cut off basically essential parts of our self practices do you do teacher do you utilize for does integration Integrations of those repressed aspects and the demonized aspects first step is awareness cuz they are too taboo like like lust for example it’s a good example it’s considered taboo or anger anger is a really good wet like I’ve heard that so many times from people of they think not just stick but they believe that anger is not spiritual is this strong belief it’s like no anger isn’t spiritual what is that what is that belief why is that belief in there so the first step is awareness because with these embedded reactions with these embedded repressions there is a leap to just denying the feeling like it’s too hot it’s like too hot to touch you know and so that first step of a practice of becoming aware of them and going well what are the feelings and noting them so there can be something like literally writing down the feelings like just writing a word that like oh there is anger or is there is depression and something like that might look very simple or it might even look useless but it actually isn’t because it’s bringing in this new pattern workers I can notice something nothing bad is happening by noticing it so there’s a new pattern being created there by first just bringing awareness to whatever’s there in the Eastern country Traditions kind of give permission to express the various aspects of the human personality through these characters and the stories in mythological archetypes in different states of Consciousness in people may or may not actually feel in the ability to evoke or invoke or feel possessed by and therefore have a sort of thumb the patron saints of these different emotional Expressions is that something you you get into it either sort of symbolically or more literally I guess you could say bring two archetypes that embodies the emotions or what exactly are you referring to yeah just well for example I think probably the most well the most dramatic that Dede that that is used in a lot of just Neo Tantra and classical timeshares is to if you need to express rage in a healthy way than you would call upon the pooches and sudden the practices to bring yourself into the the field of the collie energy or the goddess Kali and that would be your sort of phone Serta prefabricated safe container to let all of that rage be expressed without the well without it basically sublimating into other more more well leaking out into other areas of your life where you’re not really conscious he’s fully present for it so that’s certainly a lot of what I’ve experienced and in workshops and in trainings and whatnot is just to be able to identify when you can make your own of course but the the sort of from the toolkit the township provides one of them and assorted Friday obviously permutations change across space and time but is I’m just wondering if that’s something you you say all right now get into your Kali Rage or if you need to you know if you’re feeling broke and hungry and homeless you need to invoke them or a goddess of abundance or a god of abundance or if I’m just wondering if you play with any of those those templates for someone who resume with it like it sounds like for you that my really resonate in which case it’s a meaningful safe container and medium and Kali the braids for that so is Shiva these archetypal energies symbols ever we want to look at them Daddy’s however they’re represented they can be exactly in the way you’re speaking of these meaningful channels so that being said if someone were to work with me and that angle it would depend on if if they’re sympathetic to that because my focus in the dare to be present work is to make it very accessible to a person where they’re at so I would only bring up that kind of method with someone to was predisposed to be into these archetypes and a lot of people aren’t a lot of people you’re about Daddy’s like that and they just think it’s mumbo-jumbo and I’m not at all going to go down that road with them because I meet people where they’re at so it does that totally depends on the person said that cuz that seems it seems like a in a way there’s a there’s a I mean I have I have ethical concerns with the the way that people would say that there doing Contour teaching Township but there really time tree is a it’s all about these specific practices of worshiping mostly the goddess originally and then that that sort of you could say got bastard has been corrupted and became a very patriarchal power over not really in greatest service to the goddess form of Steel spiritual practice but it’s just a shifted into a more picture cool pear diamond and then the the three historical roots of goddess worship have been marginalized and you know so that’s that’s really in a notice in a nutshell that’s how I’d see what what time she really is so when I see people saying that they’re teaching Township but they’re glossing over or sort of making making a just sleeping over that process that was the court process of spiritual relationship to a goddess of devotion then I got a question it to be able to like what you’re saying you’re not you’re not really guiding people there especially if they’re not ready for it or they’re not into it and you don’t even you’re not calling and Country so it’s I’m curious how your and I respect that so I’m curious how do you apply the sort of principles of Tantra to the modern world where people are not likely to buy into the notion of these you know very vast lineages of mythological deities that are just dizzying to try to even begin to understand you to be absolutely clear I don’t bring up the word Tantra at all in my work unless it’s somehow relevant it comes up in a few of my writings probably they’re not even on my website so it’s it’s not something that I’m using as a word explicitly but the other part of it is the question which is fertile ground right now if we want to go into which is what is Tantra and I don’t know if you and I ended up looking into that book and mention it to use absolutely one of my favorite books of all times and I recommend it to anyone who’s interested in Tantra it’s contract Quest and then it’s something like I forgot the subtitle at subtitle something like a journey to Absolute love or something like that tante request by Daniel o d a o d d i e r and it’s a true story of his journey to find a ton truck master and she goes on this journey in the Himalayas and she goes through all these tribulations and then he finally gives up like okay I’ve tried I’ve almost succeeded so he gives up and then he finds her and if I’m remembering her name correctly it’s something like Lalita Devi and she’s this Patrick Master living alone in the woods and it’s such a beautiful story and it really goes into what I consider to be Tantra witches I mean it goes into some of the sexual aspects to but in terms of how it talks about consciousness of a very embodied consciousness and a very very intimate relationship with the senses with being embodied in the sensual world so you know if you want to go into it is worth questioning and discussing of what exactly is Tantra because how I see it it’s not dependent on any sort of worship of an energetic archetype that we give a name like Collier Shiva how I see it it is first of all if the path to Total Awakening so it’s a certain kind of spiritual paths that emphasizes inclusion rather than exclusion where are some of the traditional things in many spiritual paths that are considered taboo or off-limits do not have to be off limits and Tantra and the signature and then is that if they’re engaged in very very consciously then they’re not us in that kind of language and so that’s how I view Tantra and I mean I’m not here to say my view is more right than yours that’s not the point at all but what I hear is that you’re feeling or believing that it rests upon worshipping a certain energetic form it’s interesting because you know I always enjoy the conversations because it’s it’s it’s kind of a archaeological Adventure I mean the the most I guess where I start in my inquiry with the available information we have is that there were a hunter gatherer or gatherer Hunter South Asian peoples who were who had black goddess figurines that are going back in the archaeological record at least 20,000 years and if yes if my sort of I guess I feel like what I’m personally feel like that everything that became organized scriptural do Orthodox Hinduism today that we would look at it it’s it’s sort of a an interesting the story the sort of natural history of of the dark goddess is one that goes back a long time in India before so many different waves of conquest and colonization and a word it’s often uses brown one is a Shannon and before the caste system before civilization before Agriculture and the way that if there to be some some story or movie that’s actually would be kind of telling that story of what happened to the primal practices of indigenous goddess worship and how all of these different trappings of of domestication really sort of from required of it a lot of different fractions fraction fractioning of archetypes you know before there was wealth and riches and a class and poverty in a class until before the caste system you didn’t have all these different permutations of of Glamour course we all want to be rich and glamorous and famous and we all want to be blessed by the the goddesses is a fortune in your fortune and wealth and we just take that for granted and also even the scriptures of the contras in the scripture did the all of this sort of Orthodox Hindu scriptures it’s very much based on a time of war and conflict and even is has a club to beat the Bison demon so because it was a threat to the crap so as much as we would take even jirga and believe me I I fear to say this but it but it’s just a detached sort of the knowledge and Analysis of it it’s everyday I guess everything before I before I dare say anything I regret I want to say that when we peel back the onion of archaeology you know there’s a different context for every story so I’m not I’m not pushing that it on anybody I’m just I feel like it’s it’s really the heart of Tantra that hopefully the benevolent this goal that that it has or that we hope it has you know which is to be to help us become the most compassionate benevolent loving wholesome Divine an Earthly connected Angel beasts animals that that’s sort of not everybody practicing these esoteric Arts has the best intentions and so yeah it’s it’s interesting dance with the light in the shadow and now we’re in the west just discovering that it’s possible for sacred sexuality to to exist in again that’s kind of why it seems like it’s the where Township where the sort of the vacuum of a lack of wisdom around sexuality that the tantric wisdom around sexuality is finding a a sort of being siphoned into the second shot and to get beyond that which is part of the division and it’s there still in segregating the Tantra to a sexual act is we are in a culture that you know this of course and probably most or all of the listeners Duty or your listeners do that it’s very very sexually repressed and so keeping Sexual Energy in the bedroom even if it’s Concord tantric Sexual Energy is still not going to this other dimension and this other dimension like one of the things I’ve explored for example I have plenty of practices that I do myself and for example this very basic beautiful fundamental and essential meditation on the brass is one of the most basic or possibly the most basic meditation basic not in a negative way but Central even just that can become a tantric exercise and it has nothing to do with the genitals I mean it could but in its purest form let’s just leave them out for now cuz it’s going to the store and direction of a difference I mention a larger hole where we can experience the brass as making love with the universe is easy to look at that logically even what does it do it moves in and without giving us life is giving us energy is this relationship with the hole with the Earth with the universe whatever the whole is I mean really it’s the Earth as far as we know it but we don’t know if the Earth would exist in a vacuum you know if the Earth was not in the universe we are not even be possible so something like that can turn into a deep meditation. it can be sexual without being genital because sexual and sexuality is not in any way limited to the generals and so that’s an example of a kind of practice where it can happen just through intention where it’s understanding the movement of breath as a kind of sexual act with the universe which is what I said it’s like really radical because if you take that to its greatest scope it’s like if we tune into that we’re walking around making love with the universe but actually I love that you’re saying that because I feel that every man who is homophobic and Spins I don’t know a huge percentage of his energy making obscene jokes with his other homophobic male friends who are all supposed to be straight and aren’t supposed to be thinking about sex acts with men however every other joke that they make is an explicit joke about how their friend is wanting to do some explicit sex act with another man so it seems to be this pattern of a lot of men who are fighting that Curiosity to explore the kind of contact and they’re constantly it’s it’s very it’s like usually you would call it a Freudian slip but it’s like it’s like a Freudian Niagara Falls there for 40 and Avalanche just every other line coming out of this jocular sort of mentality this jock mentality that I’ve distanced myself for homes in Retreat from but with all that said what I love about what you just said and you may never have thought about this but I think it lends itself to this is that they’re so afraid of the idea of being penetrated by anyting and they’re always saying you’re a cocksucker well you’re a breath sucker how do you like that you’re making love hilarious you taking in the breath in your lungs are being penetrated and you’re just yeah I mean all of that fear of penetration and exchange with their mouth and oral it’s it’s very interesting so I’m going to I’m going to have to find a way to use that to break some of these curses because of hottest women who are breathing in right all men are breathing and also and that’s the receptivity and it’s the vulnerability and part of what I’ve been looking at personally as well as collectively cuz I’m a woman is how does it become safe to be our full sexual beings in the culture as it is and maybe the answer is it isn’t. You don’t like me cuz I wouldn’t want to push it because safety is the really really important point but this thing about vulnerability right so it’s like in terms of the wholeness of okay well you know let’s still keep sexuality in this little corner over there okay well maybe let’s call this little corner Tantra and I’m not dissing in his just like I think it’s great that there’s this opening up in certain parts of the culture II spiritual sex and Tu Amor whole sexuality all that end as I go about my daily life in this world there still like oh yeah and it’s still there over in that little corner like it’s not safe as a generalization for a woman to have her full Sexual Energy has just talking about energetically it doesn’t look safe for her to have her. Actual energy activated in public and I don’t mean any kind of physical thing I don’t mean she’s he’s dressing differently I’m talking about purely energetically and maybe it’s a misconception maybe it is safe and I’m just not aware of that you know because I am speaking energetically but that is a really fertile question of how can it be made safe within the larger culture or needed answers a cat and we just need to focus on the subcultures I don’t know yeah well if it’s it you know if maybe you could spend some time speaking from that perspective about what I guess I’ll I mean I’ll say that if I were to be asked what what ways are are is the fullness of a woman’s sexual energetic Freedom collapsed in limited by this sort of pseudopod Victorian American sex phobic society would be you can’t smile it man because they might take it the wrong way certainly have to be aware of what your how how short your skirt is how open your top is an even how your hips are swaying and what message is that transmit and then the tone of your voice and also many other unconscious aspects of nonverbal communication with your taking his cues and course how much alcohol you drink what time what time of day it is when the sun’s coming down what neighborhood you’re in all of these are all just off the top of my head you know behind each one of those collapsed Expressions is a predator waiting to exploit that weakness or that of owner ability I should say not weakness so yeah that was what do you think what are you How would how do you help women with let’s say and Men navigate and create a safe safe for more sacred wholesome culture container for being able to smile and even give compliment I could imagine a woman give me a compliment to a man and him not having sexual fantasies immediately afterwards or if she if she were to say don’t take this the wrong way but I like what you’re wearing to are some things nice awareness and acceptance and on both parts both for men and women being able to become very aware of our sexual desire and awareness is a kind of meditation so just the practice of being aware there’s a pause there so for example personally one of the things I’ve recently on that subject is like how the hell do I feel safe with a lot of sexual attention being directed at me from guys who want have sex that’s been like so I’m like how it how can that feel safe while it doesn’t feel safe so even in that instance if for some reason I were to work with those guys when should be really funny and interesting but of work within meditative practices cuz none of my practice involves physical sexuality ever I don’t work on that level so anyway it would be to be able to first become aware of for example sexual desire because with strong emotions is a kind of emotion with strong emotions like that there can be a jumping to action where maybe the guy isn’t even fully aware of what he’s feeling that interest up of okay KO that’s sexual desire and for women to because that’s of course one of the stereotypes is like oh well the woman is just supposed to be wanted not what I mean yeah it’s been shipped at some but I still feel it I still feel that. It’s still there that the woman is supposed to be the sex object she’s not supposed to talk too much he’s not supposed to speak her mind too much and yeah there’s plenty of people pointing that out but look who’s President you know there’s plenty of people speaking to that but it’s and it’s still definitely in the culture if not it’s not obliterated yet where the woman is supposed to be the one who is desired the the recipient of male desire but women have desire to just like news flash news flash so anyway one of the first step is that inner looking right because the reaction can go oh I just want that person or I just jumped to some sort of outer activity whatever it may be no tender or whatever or calling or whatever and there isn’t that step of awareness of acknowledging oh I have sexual desire wherever it is the matter woman and said that again can be a first step cuz it’s bringing in a light of awareness before an action is taken so what are some ideas that you have if you are too if you were business and and labors of love and most altruistic your intentions were to scale what would be some of the Transformations that you would that you would say they call the Blue Sky budget if you had a blue sky budget and everyone’s attention or lots of people’s attention and how would you describe a more whole township-based world for us to work and play with in Envision on a regular basis what it would be like to be in enlightened culture in an enlightened culture what would that be I mean it doesn’t even have to be called enlightened how about just like very healthy but it sounds good and letting culture the problem with the word Enlightenment is that it’s all locked and stuff like that but there would be the principal of freedom where we can go around as our whole self as our whole selves where we don’t have to go out with all our masks on I don’t know if you’ve noticed this people walk around with really intense masks psychological masks that I mean I don’t even know if they let them down for people close to them I think some people do but it would be where we can go out in public and be who we really are which is including our sexuality including our natural being were absolutely nature bound and that if there’s issues that arise in that we can consciously work through them and so it would be a culture where first of all Consciousness is the centerpiece it’s recognized as the centerpiece that awareness is the golden key to reality beyond that it would be a playground really I mean like when we look at the Earth it’s so beautiful and I’m not talking about a Utopia I mean life has its work and its hardness so not envisioning a Utopia but when we look at the Earth it’s so beautiful and it’s just creating apparently effortlessly and the dirt is integrated into his creative process is essential to Shadows essential and we’d be remembering that total connection with life and co-creating that sounds good to me so do you want to talk a bit about your about Ohio if your if you’d be interested in that I don’t know much about it I’ve been there a few times and it it it seems like kind of a Haven for somewhere between back to the land and maybe just yeah it seems like a happy medium between really far out rule local food economy type of living in and the spirits it’s yeah like I’m or we’re all kind of Westside LA but not too remote and sounds like a lot of cool stuff is going on there and if you’re interested too kind of I don’t know if the spiritual Chamber of Commerce kind of thing is going on there but you know for you but I’m just curious what’s if you’re seeing if you’re there because more of this more of your ideal lifestyle is accessible there or if if not where have you found some of your ideals most exemplified in you recommend a tour guide of the new paradigm certain people and I don’t know if it’s localized here I mean I’m here because I happen to have falls in love with the place I’m not married to Ohio I’m here for now for the first table future I do love it I wouldn’t call Ohio and then light in town really what I see as hopeful in terms of really the new Earth is a good term for it is any of us who are aware of the darkness of the slave Matrix that so many people are mentally enslaved to and there’s certainly plenty of people enslaved here in Ohio so and realizing that humans we as humans have tremendous potential we really do like we we could have a really amazing earth culture that’s working well with the lands that’s not slowly killing ourselves off you know what that is really as possible so the Hope or where I see that new paradigm represent is really is in the people who are aware of it or wear it because there’s plenty of people who are not where is simply depressed and really really stressed out really really hooked into the mental slavery of the system and they don’t see it how it can be some other way but there’s some of us and I’m sure you were one of them we do see how it could be different and I don’t know if we’ll get there but the path is that if it’s our service so the path is okay well there has to be some kind of critical Awakening like maybe like a hundredth monkey kind of thing and that’s that’s the Cutting Edge that really is and part of and healing is part of it you know whoever’s doing meaningful healing work that’s absolutely serving it and the permaculture people you know the people who’ve got the Practical point of view of how do we have physical systems that are regenerative that’s totally part of it so there’s there are the people who are doing those different pieces so that’s rather than a specific human I like where I’m at but more than that it’s really it’s I see the Hope in nature and those of us who do clearly see that you know it is possible we could collectively awaken this is a possibility and what are some hopeful trends that you’re seeing you know anywhere locally or Beyond or online or yeah positive hopeful trends that she might p.m. reserving like I don’t have children but I love children I’m not going to have children but I love children and you don’t ever see a child I’m like you know they’re not coming out of the wound Shackled that the dark trajectory is that if it just keeps getting darker is like babies will come out of the room they’re already Shackled if you know what I mean but immunization should all the shots poisonings with that in a do you have a just wanted to take a side note here I feel like a lot of people don’t take pregnancy as seriously as they probably should as far as you know of distancing themselves from Psycho Drama and toxic relationships and unfortunately a lot of times it ends up being their baby daddy toxic relationship and yeah there’s there’s a lot of fun of child abuse going on in utero on every level so yeah that’s just it I guess a question if you if you do any work of that nature with clients or if you’re being a part of that movement 2 kind of buffer these toxic influences of all kinds to woman’s pregnant sore yeah when it when a woman is pregnant that’s I guess I just always feel really heartbroken when I see the whole cycle of that whole cycle just not well for one starting with not having a clear intention during the time of conception which is number one no error to be kind of frivolously copulating and not really having a strong attention doesn’t mean it has to be and I’m not I’m not saying it has to be with one person one married partner that’s governed by the Lord Jesus Christ or anything but certainly if your I mean well that’s kind of the most I would say some most ancient most the one of the most essential reasons for a sacred sexuality practice is to protect the the the conception the moment of conception and the process all the processes of development thereafter to invoke the right desirable protective energies and and I will go in on some coaches would have DD’s around that knowing that it’s not just the unless you’re a scientific rationalist atheist to believe that everything is just a did back in the spiritual I mean if your taking using the word sacred you can’t be an atheist because there is nothing sacred to an atheist. That’s what being an atheist is put on the sacred Pro pedestal in that case well yeah before I eat before I go on a soapbox I guess you know the more I guess a specific question would be how are you finding that your work or your studies are involving this this you know people were really wrecked you know if people are really wrecked in their life and they’re being Reckless about about the potential of being a container for life there’s a lot of not just your own car make purification but for your own sake but the responsibility to be a good ever purifying womb space vessel and I’m not going to be the guy to tell women how to do that so I need a safe container so of course a woman who’s pregnant that’s a very specific crucial Time end we’ve all been wounded and so absolutely part of the intention and part of the Derby present work is to create these safe containers where it’s a meeting where the meeting safe where the whole person is welcome so we all need that because of the culture were in and then be on the meetings be on the safe containers of the meetings where a person’s full self is welcome for the individual to be able to create safe containers for herself or himself and that’s important also and that’s different methods where for example creative methods can be a great way for that to happen where someone for example can do a creative exercise such as writing where they know they can destroy the writing afterwards if they want to and in that writing they can say absolutely anything at all they can say things they can write things that they would never tell another person. they would never repeat again but it’s a way of liberating certain aspects of themself and that becomes us a container that’s just one example there’s many others so that stays can container that safe container those safe containers of time and space which can happen through a method are really essential and then the other part of that is one of the things that I put out and things I share online occasionally is about overpopulation and conception things like that which is a really really really important Global issue so that’s part of the collective you is okay our population keeps going up we’re not in good relationship with our resources so that’s not a good equation like it’s like three new babies born every every second or something like that that’s not an exact number but it’s really really really high something like that like 1 2 3 every second and that has to be addressed on some level and as long as it’s still taboo on some level to talk about sex and how babies are made. Going to be a logical progression because so much of sex and sexuality is in the closet still and we’ll so you know we can’t talk about that we can’t talk about you know hey a guy doesn’t need to ejaculate to have an orgasm for example which of course you knew about and I mean that kind of thing that’s one of my other Visions for an unladen cultures that kind of thing it’s like everyone would know that and they would learn it in safe totally non perverted ways it would not be a perversion it would be like hey this is this is something that it’s really good to know and right now it’s like oh my God that’s you can’t you can’t change someone that it’s like you know that’s one of the Visions like imagine if from this point forward every conception was conscious intentional and wanted that would transform the world right there absolutely yeah that’s an interesting I get other so much in jio money spent and so many think tanks just grinding the gears trying to figure this out and it’s really scary man I was thinking about this just the other day was watching this documentary called the fourth world saying that the population the global population of people in slums is probably going to Triple in the next few decades so and I have to wonder why is that well it’s because of these the dogmas and limits around contraception in education and that’s a religious problem at the at the core you know the religious dogma and so I imagine it if the pope decreed that in jaculation is the only way to limit the profuse suffering of people who are born into extreme poverty in you know I mean that’s that’s that would be an interesting turn of events yeah but that’s why one of the reasons why this really really bizarre taboo against acknowledging what creates every single human being is so destructive it’s like it’s really crazy it’s really really really crazy and so in terms of the Times review and the wholeness of Tantra and Tantra leading the wholeness it’s great it’s fine it’s worthwhile that there’s more of a dialogue now about sexual practices of Tantra and that excellent one of Yes Men can learn to have multiple orgasm without ejaculation ejaculating is really really really helpful so that’s highly highly relevant and also in terms of respecting that sexuality I wouldn’t even say can be sacred I would say is inherently sacred so those are essential end we also absolutely need this broader piece of take away the taboo on the fact that we are all sexual beings . We are all sexual beings there’s no one who isn’t a sexual being there’s all sorts of sexuality but we all came out of it therefore we are all sexual beings and that taboo have to be with it it just has to it’s like one of those absolutely essential pieces if Humanity isn’t going to keep going down a really dark path on the the biomedical physiological side of this I just this is the first time thank you so much as a result of this conversation I know have taken this Great Leap Forward to find the actual clinical terminology for a phenomenon that I have been preaching about for a long time which is that if you want less unwanted children and less overpopulation you have to basically extend maternity leave so that mother is can breast feed on demand as long as the children want to because that is the Nature’s Best contraceptive so yeah so here’s that I’m going to read this right there I’m going to just read a bit of this right now because this is the perfect moment to to seed Consciousness with this idea is called lactational amenorrhea laminaria is the temporary post-natal infertility that occurs when a woman is Anna Maria not menstruating and fully breastfeeding breastfeeding and fertility so that’s the English translation I guess you’re calling and breastfeeding and fertility for women who follow the suggestion to meet the criteria listed below laam is 98% effective during the first six months postpartum breastfeeding must be the infants only or almost only source of nutrition feeding formula pumping instead of Nursing and feeding solids all reduce the effectiveness of Lan the infant must breastfeed at least every 4 hours during the day and every 6 hours at night the infant must be less than 6 months old the mother must not have had a. After 56 days postpartum when determining fertility bleeding prior to 56 days postpartum can be ignored and to take full advantage of L am at his best at the baby’s face not be covered when feeding what is that trying to tell us which Ian Lee covering the baby reduces the babies access to oxygen in visual contact with the mother which trains the baby to speed up the cycling process and this reduces the time. Rendering Less La and less affected I’m just going to break down and cry right now I can’t breasts in public call the police or whatever alerts a store manager or whatever they do yeah that’s so this is and and let it and let it think that it’s just died and gone to hell I’m okay so the next thing is even even more telling says if not combined with barrier contraceptives spermicides home if not combined with barrier contraceptives spermicides hormonal contraceptives or intrauterine devices lactational amenorrhea lactational amenorrhea method Lan may be considered natural Family Planning by the Roman Catholic church so it would be time to let maybe the pope is in his likely to agree that we must train men to withhold ejaculation however the the possibility is it stated here that a natural Family Planning method such as Lan would be Church approved not the current pope seems like actually a pretty good guy from what I’ve heard and leader of the free the nipple movement so that LAN show me the way he can do it is exactly the way your previously suggesting is women need to have full leave for a certain amount of time after they have a child and what are the things I’ve studied for years and they sure about with women on occasion is fertility tracking which is so is something that women can do so men can learn how to orgasm without ejaculation so they don’t need to ejaculate and what women can do is learn to we can learn to track or cycles and there is no drugs involved there’s no chemicals involved and it’s really empowering because we can do it’s really pretty simple we can do that with taking our temperature daily before getting up and then also by tracking our cervical fluid and it can be really accurate if it’s done properly and so for example like in college I want the morning after pill kind of broke and if I’ve been doing the tracking at the time is before I got into that I would have been able to know whether or not I needed to even do that because when women tracking mail Partners can do that along with them if they wanted but it’s really would be our responsibility as women we can know exactly how many days were fertile and it’s only going to be like it’s going to be like at most maybe a third of the month or if there is a cycle something like that something like maybe Max 8 days and that’s not an absolute quote but it’s something like that where I mean it’s just for the simple reason of like sparing a lot of stress of how many women of freaked out maybe pregnant and if we’re tracking we can know whether or not that even worth considering so it’s called the fertility awareness method and there’s some good books on it and I learned it on my own just from the books and it’s not the Rhythm method which is not accurate cuz that’s projected path Cycles on to Future Cycles which is not a good idea cuz the next cycle the next women cycle can be totally different it’s where you actually know the women will actually know what phase of fertility she’s in and then can choose more responsibly how to deal with pregnancy throw or if she wants to conceive it help conception to because then she’ll know I’m most fertile Denso it helps with with and then a really cool thing is even if a woman is sexually active she can know within a few days when she’ll get here her. Which is really is great to be an engine has no concern about pregnancy or if she’s not having sex is really helpful and cool to be able to know I know my. Is going to start within these three days or something so this is great fertility awareness method wow oh we have this has been quite an adventure with a lot of different inquiries in I just want to say is we’re getting close to a good time to wrap up if you have any other important messages you want to share and certainly you know feel free to promote your services and your website and everything and then I look forward to the next adventure I want to start just this mean point that inspired reaching out to you which is this view of Contra as a spiritual path to wholeness into Awakening that is not dependent on whether or not there is any physical sex happening it’s not dependent on that and it’s this invitation to allow ourselves this Consciousness that Embraces every aspect of ourselves and in turn actually every aspect of our existence where there isn’t any aspect of ourselves that we need to make evil or Macon to the devil and we can really embrace all of who we are whatever that may be so that’s the time trick message and then the other piece is that what I offer is called dare to be present and it is supporting individuals in being able to learn how to be with themselves and learn how to explore their inner being the thoughts the Motions the inner body how to bring awareness to this inner self. 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