For hundreds of thousands of years, sacred practices were developed by traditional cultures to connect people to each other, the earth, the sky, the spirit world, etc. in a way that gave them a sense of place in the cosmos.
If something is deemed sacred it’s treated with respect, it’s engaged in ritualistically, and it’s done with full presence and undivided attention.
How many things can you think of that are treated this way in daily life?
Our synthetic reality is fast, disposable, cheap, easy, careless, thoughtless, shallow, sterile, life-less, devoid of spirit. Statistically for the average American, sexuality is the same. The average married American couple has sex for 3-5 minutes once or twice a month, and for the individual, masturbation is a sinful, guilty, embarrassing, and mechanical shallow pleasure. The dominant culture has desacrilized and commercialized sexuality. It’s consumed though magazines, tv, movies, and pornography. It’s sexist, male dominant, and exploitative.
We lack the sacred traditions to teach us about and train us in practices and methodologies to use it as a pathway to discover and apply divine energies in our lives.
So-called Western society has been at war with sacred sexuality for millennia. It’s committed global genocide and ethnocide not only conquer land and pillage resources, but to destroy any living reminder of what it was like to be free; to love the earth, to honor the feminine, to have reverence for animals, to connect to the divine through the body itself, through direct experience, through altered states of ecstasy.
Many of us have been traumatized by religions that have systematically eradicated the ancient universal spirituality known as animism where everything was alive and contained a spirit. Religions designed by murderous rulers of civilizations took the sacredness that lived in all things and all beings, corrupted it, masculinized it and shoved it into a few buildings, objects, and books.
When those who’ve liberated themselves from the torturous prison of patriarchal religion hear words like “sacred” and “spiritual” it often makes them ill. It triggers flashbacks of extreme guilt and shame, horrific visions of hell and damnation, of the absolute betrayal of love and trust by the family, community, and institutions that imposed the system of domination on their body, mind, and spirit.
Why would we want mix these toxic feelings with something wild and fun like sex? Is sacred sexuality about more rules, more silence, more standing still and being made to feel bad about everything that seems natural to a human animal, being made to cover our bodies?
No, it’s about reclaiming the sacred and the spiritual and making temples out of our own bodies to worship with and to be worshipped, as we are the human manifestations of divine energy.
Sacred sexuality is not religious self-denial and abstinent devotion to “god”. It’s not hoping to catch a glimpse of the divine by reading books in dungeons cloaked in robes that cover the whole body.
It’s about embracing the self and learning how to make oneself a conduit of divine energy. It’s not about the belief in the divine, it’s about the experience of it, an experience that’s not controlled by a ruler, a saint, or a preacher; one that’s not denied or persecuted by a clergy; one that’s not considered schizophrenic by the mental health establishment.
What is “the divine”, is it god, is it gods, is it a man, is it a woman, is it a man and a woman, is it an animal or animals, is it aliens? I think it’s all of the above and more…
My working definition for the divine is that which is beyond our untrained senses, is intelligent, and is more powerful, aware, and wise than we are.
By entering altered states of consciousness, human beings can transcend the limits of normal waking conscious and gain access to realms beyond consensus reality.
To me, it’s not one entity that I can name and worship, it’s an ecology of inter-dimensional beings, energy, and information that exist in hyperspace, beyond space and time.
Normally, our senses block out 99% percent of what surrounds us. Imagine that in the one percent of perception that we call consensus reality (the reality most of us agree is real because we can all see, feel, taste, smell, and hear it), we’re just one little tide pool, unaware that we’re actually just a tiny micro-ecosystem within the greater ecosystem of the ocean.
If you asked starfish in a tide pool what lies beyond it, one might say, “well, there’s nothing beyond it,” another might say, “what lies beyond it is all one giant singular being that looks like me,” another might say, “I don’t know,” and another might say “maybe it’s a just a greater array of diversity similar to this tide pool.”
Whichever one of those starfish you are, or your parents are, or your nation’s dominant religion is, one thing is universal: every culture that’s ever existed is absolutely obsessed with what lies beyond our senses and will do anything to try to explain it.
The difference between force-fed religious dogma and traditional spirituality is that one is a based on “precepts” and the other on “percepts”. In other words, divinity is described by elite religious leaders and the followers must believe in the precept as it’s preached about or depicted in words or art. Traditional spirituality is perceived directly through one’s own experience of ecstatic altered states.
In shamanic cultures, tools and techniques are cultivated over generations and students are trained to preserve and carrying on the traditions. Shamans help guide the members of society into and back from the spirit world but the point is for people to have the right to chose to access it and learn from it whatever they want, to go in as deep or shallow as they choose.
In the shamanic framework, the earth and the universe are alive and filled with beings that have dimensionality beyond our normal perception. The infinite cosmic drama is ever unfolding, it’s not codified in one set of rigid mystical stories. Of course there are origin stories, and other constructs that hold a peoples’ identity together. But the mythology is alive, it’s open to new experiences, new insights, new revelations. The truth can’t be crystallized, and it doesn’t need to be. Only cultures based on fear need the security of a dead world and universe governed by a patriarchal ruler.
Most of the shamanic tools and techniques that open up our access to the divine have been banned and outlawed if not destroyed and erased.
But all the doorways inside of us are still there. The now dominant culture just locked the doors and threw away the keys so we’d stay imprisoned in its dead reality. But they can never destroy the doors, never take them away.
How can we reopen these doors? There are many sacred plants and sacred practices that act as magic keys.
In the 1960s an explosion in consciousness expansion occurred, the introduction of Eastern philosophy, transcendental meditation, psychedelics, new forms of music and more all broke the American psyche out of its stiff, straight, coma and things were groovy for a while. But it didn’t last because people lacked the life-long discipline of real shaman. Experiencing the great beyond was recreational, inspirational, “trippy” and “far out”, some people became modern shaman to the best of their ability and with their own devices, but most people were just tourists without a map. They’d either get lucky and fall down the rabbit hole into Disney Land, or end up spending a “Night on Bald Mountain”. But the power to gain access to healing energies, deeper insights, develop rapport with other sentient beings, the ability to see the future, communicate with the dead, and so on, has not been reclaimed.
Sadly it seems that it would take many generations the after the collapse of modern civilization for any of its former inhabitants to truly regain these skills. Luckily there are many intact shamanic cultures to learn from today and many of them invite outsiders to partake in their ceremonies.
Our individual access to the other side is highly restricted, and the opportunity to explore it with the guidance of real shaman is remote but we still have a few powerful keys we can develop. One of the most powerful, effective, free, legal, non-drug induced means to access the divine is the cultivation and application of sexual energy.
Whether alone, with a partner, or in a group, ritualized, sacred sexual practices heighten human consciousness into some of the most ecstatic altered states. With the mixture of eye contact, breathing, energy circulation, relaxation, duration, build up, words, intentions, presence, focus, consciousness, etc. the doors will open to the divine.
Sexual energy is the most powerful energy we generate, when cultivated and directed consciously it can be a magical tool to supercharge the manifestation of our visions for the future, it can be directed towards healing diseases, it can be used to transmute negative emotions and trauma into positive energy and empowerment, it can clean the spirit and enlighten the mind.
Great sex is usually just thought of as a wild ride, like an amusement park without purpose beyond satisfaction, but why waste the power that’s generated when it can be used to reclaim lost magical powers?