Do you need a guardian angel to care for your spiritual love life? I would be honored to help guide you towards your highest sensual and erotic potential. Whether you’re single, dating, or in a committed relationship of any style, I can help. As a trained tantric counselor I can confidently support you in your efforts to optimize your performance in the following areas:
Please email me at ben [at] tantrapunk [dot com] or call 818-275-1593 to schedule a FREE 30 minute introductory session so we can chart a course based on your needs, wants, and means.
Coaching and Counseling Reviews:
“I came to Ben feeling beyond discouraged about dating and completely starved for touch — let alone for a healthy and vibrant sexual relationship. I knew what I was looking for and felt like I was in a good place personally — but just couldn’t seem to manifest the partner I was looking for. The more I tried the worse I felt. I hadn’t had sex in over a year.
Despite being a little intimidated to talk to Ben at first (I didn’t know anything substantive about Tantra) — he immediately put me at ease and made me feel safe and comfortable in asking all kinds of questions that I was too shy to ask anyone else. I immediately felt more empowered in my journey. Like I was starting to see “the matrix.” In subtle ways my entire mindset started to shift — helped considerably by a beautiful vision board that he helped me assemble — which I then set as my wallpaper on my laptop. Sometimes I’d just stare at this vision board and let it overtake me — it was like my secret power source!
I started with the premise: What if everything I think I know about love and relationships is wrong? I exposed some faulty beliefs, challenged myself to consider what kind of relationship would really serve me, thought about trying poly (but ultimately stayed monogamous) and slowly became excited about dating again. [Cue image of flower blossoming!]
It was incredibly reassuring to know that I could call Ben anytime for help. One time he said that I could go into the ladies room in the middle of a date and call him ala “the bat phone” if I needed a quick piece of advice. I never took him up on this offer but just knowing Ben had my back like this made everything easier.
It’s funny that a lot of people think of tantra as “extreme” or “promiscuous” — especially when a lot of the advice Ben gave me was downright wholesome! (Like not feeling obligated to kiss a guy early on in dating.) He felt like a dating coach / guardian angel to me when I was in such a vulnerable spot. He made suggestions but never shamed me if I didn’t follow them exactly. When I went out with a guy that had some red flags he gently pointed out things to pay attention to — which were all about trusting my intuition (not Ben’s ego!)
And guess what? In a matter of a couple months I met an incredible man — the most aligned person I’ve ever dated by far — and my current relationship is AWESOME. My boyfriend is smart, funny, sexy, expansive — and all about the divine feminine! He might be a bigger feminist than me! We share the same interests, values and hobbies… and are setting up strong communication habits. Friends exclaim that we just “go together.” It has never been this way for me before. It feels like a miracle. I am so deeply grateful to Ben for supporting me on this journey and helping me manifest this relationship.
If you’re even a little curious — do yourself a favor, set up a consultation call and see if he resonates with you. The love (and super hot sex!) you desire is out there. Ben will help you find it.”
“We meditated together, kneeling and sitting cross-legged breathing deeply and visualizing all of our negative energy leaving our physical bodies and entering the Earth. A pure energy was envisioned as entering our bodies through our chakra systems, beginning at the root chakra and meeting the divine cosmic energy coming down from the crown chakra, as a complete system. I felt incredibly free, connected and safe. It was truly divine.”
“Love your third video! Keep them coming! It is so amazing that you share your body and experience with us so we can experience them ourselves. I feel your energy and feel like I am living through your experience. I love the exercises…I am going to take your advice and try some of the techniques in your ebook. Watching the videos, you really know your body!! I am in my early thirties and it is amazing how little I know about my own body.”
“I feel that I’ve been permanently changed for the better as a result of my contact with him. I would highly recommend him to anyone who’s considering working with him in any capacity.”
“I was introduced to the concept of “non-ownership types of relationships”. And understanding how the common, “promise to love the other forever”, is only realistic if you are clairvoyant and can see the future; Otherwise, that vow leads to taking the other for granted, guilt/manipulation/control tactics, deception and disappointments. Navigating my own personal comfort level in seeking non-ownership guidelines in a monogamous relationship was revolutionary to me. I was taught how boundaries and agreements could be set to protect the desired partnership while encouraging honest transparency, and the full potential for self-expression and growth in all parties. For me, the best way to get to know a potential love interest, was to agree initially to a set period of non-commitment dating, while also, withholding sex for that time (Or unless, otherwise, given the fast-track approval by said love-life advisor). 3 months was the recommended standard time to serve as a buffer to keep manipulation and physical/emotional oxytocin bonding at bay.
The Importance of having an altar or vision board to hone intentions of manifestation; A clear vision of what I wanted to attract into my life; The desired, ultimate whole picture and how it would make me feel. In dating, I was taught to ask questions such as, “What does this man, I am considering, do for the environment”; “Does he care at all”; “What is his stance or potential to worship the feminine divine/Mother earth”; “How has he been treating the women in his life thus far”?(which would reveal how he will ultimately treat me). The spiritual character of a potential mate had to be in alignment (or desired to be in alignment) with my own, in order to be a fundamental corner stone in which to build upon.
The dysfunctional cycles I had been unconsciously auto-piloting into, were addressed, explained and rewired. I was taught to understand the nature and origin of destructive entities that can influence ones personality or even put us into possession-like states.. and how to recognize and disassociate from that unconscious (lower-self) auto-piloting moving forward .. Incorporating energy cleansing techniques involving 432 hertz music/Om frequency, dance, meditation, breathing, Tantric techniques to raise energy, Pranic healing sweeps, salt water baths, etc.
How to Incorporate rituals of pleasure with a partner and the importance of daily flirting/touch.. Not necessarily daily full body massages, but where passing by your lover, automatically involves some form of affection; kissing/fondling/grinding, to keep the flame burning.. While also maintaining balance and conservation of my lovers Chi.
… And so much more valuable lessons and insight gained.. Thank you, infinitely, for your help in manifesting the love of my life! He is everything I could’ve hoped for and more! Words cannot come close to expressing what I am feeling… I am Blessed beyond belief”
Ben spent many hours over the phone helping me through a difficult time in my life. I was feeling really lonely in my relationship and ended up doing something I later regretted. It was helpful to speak to someone that was open and non judgmental to my situation. I was able to collect myself and accept the fate of my relationship, either way it went. I’m really grateful for Ben’s encouragement to have patience and communicate from a loving place.
Energy and Hands-On Healing Reviews:
“The Shamanic Goddess Worship Session was cleansing, cathartic and liberating. Through Ben’s gentle guidance, I was able to feel safe emotionally, mentally and spiritually, thus opening up my vulnerability so that I could heal and let go of deep, repressed issues and memories. The progression of the the session was gentle, comfortable and respectful. The session started with an opening bow which demonstrated honor and respect to one another, allowing the interaction to begin on stable and honorable grounds. Ben and I then had a thorough discussion of the application of tantric energy so that I was able to understand how this erotic energy would not only allow myself to grow, but through my healing– the entire world. Boundaries were discussed afterwards and it was made very clear that although we both would be tapping into our sexual energy, there was not to be any sexual acts or lude contact. My physical and emotional states were addressed afterwards, through reflection and discussion of what healing needed to be done, and how we would achieve our goals. I was asked to introspect and write my virtues and vices on paper and we then discussed how and where to direct our energy for the session. Afterwards, we both set an intention verbally.
During the first step of the process, I rapidly breathed through my nose, taking in plumes of cleansing burning sage from Ben walking around me with the smudge stick in his hand. This allowed me to become aware of my energy in relation to his, as well as bringing focus to the current moment, clearing my mind.
Afterwards, I was directed to shake my entire body wildly. This allowed me to shake off negative residual vibrations and warm up the body. Afterwards, Ben brought pads and taught me basic self-defense and striking technique. This allowed me to build confidence in terms of self-defense. I was then asked to dance freely and blissfully, allowing the my body to relax and let go of personal reservations and insecurities.
I was then blessed by Ben as he danced around me in a circle, praising through devotional hand strokes in the air. I began to feel surges of energy as the divine frequencies of my body came into my awareness through Ben and I’s connection, even though he and I did not touch. Ben then began to brush the surface of my skin while continuing to dance around me, bringing intimate sensual energy and having my awareness become even more heightened.
To the melodic bass line of the music, I received a massage, with Ben intuitively focusing on tense areas- I felt my body melt into his hands. My anxieties, insecurities and fears dissipated as I felt even more relaxed and comfortable with the session.
After breathing in deeply, Ben massaged my chakra points, and I felt my negative energy being replaced with positive light. Afterwards, Ben held the front and back of my body at these chakra points and I felt the therapeutic love and energy flood my entire system.
Then, Ben gently led my hips to move rhythmically with the music, our chakra systems aligned in synergy. Our arms moved together with our hips, love streaming from our fingertips. He moved to the front, and I embraced him out of sheer joy, for I felt so safe and free to love. We continued to move beautifully in synchronicity.
Afterwards, Ben and I sat down in Yab Yum Goddess position, maintaining gentle and connected eye contact with synchronized breath. I melted into complete safety and nurturance, with Ben embracing me, rocking gently back and forth and in circular motions. I felt absolutely connected with him and surrendered my energy without any fear or distrust.
After a deep embrace, we stood up and bowed to each other. I felt deep honor and respect for what he had done for me, and I knew that he had been blessed with the beautiful experience we had shared as well. We reflected on the ceremony, and I shared what I had experienced emotionally, physically and mentally. I disclosed how each element of the ceremony made me feel and my thoughts on all aspects of it. Ben shared his perspective and shed insight onto the ceremony as well.
To conclude, we meditated together, kneeling and sitting cross-legged breathing deeply and visualizing all of our negative energy leaving our physical bodies and entering the Earth. A pure energy was envisioned as entering our bodies through our chakra systems, beginning at the root chakra and meeting the divine cosmic energy coming down from the crown chakra, as a complete system. I felt incredibly free, connected and safe. It was truly divine.”
“I’ve had two healing sessions with Ben, and I feel that he is a true healer. I’ve been giving and receiving energy work for ten years, so I feel that I’m a pretty good judge of these things. His energy is powerful and you can feel it for days afterward. My second session with him was literally one of the most amazing experiences I’ve had. I almost felt like I was having an out-of-body experience at times. I feel that I’ve been permanently changed for the better as a result of my contact with him. I would highly recommend him to anyone who’s considering working with him in any capacity.”
“The moment he put his hands on my body I knew this guy knew exactly what he was doing, it was very peacefull and comfortable. Under his magical, healing touch I turned to putty…my only regret is that i don’t live close enough to enjoy more of his touch on a regular basis.”
“One hand was on one side of my torso and one hand was on my back and I could feel his energy going through me and he was moving my body around and my body knew exactly how to respond. There was this amazing dance between him and I of energy, of rising up kundalini. There was an amazing swaying rhythmic motion to help my energy rise up and up and it was really a beautiful experience. What was really neat about it is that I felt like we were almost like professional ice skaters or professional dancers, or like I was somebody who’s practiced a cheer leading routine a 1000s times, or playing the piano, it was like knowing the notes exactly by heart, it was this sort of playing off each others bodies where we knew exactly how to move and what to do. That was fascinating to me, to not have a moment of questioning or hesitation. I ended up really enjoying myself with the music, I felt like I did hold back for a bit but towards the end, I was definitely dancing to trance music, I had never done that before. I felt like a part of the trance culture and I feel good about that. It was a really good experience.”
“Ben sat with me and explained step by step what this standing massage would entail and we even practiced the closing position to make sure I was comfortable with it before we started. I appreciated that. There were 4 waves of music moving from dark to light and in each wave Ben changed position and I just stood.
1: He moved around my body swiping and gently massaging
2. He danced behind me
3. He danced in front holding me
4: We sat with me on his lap legs behind his back.
I really like #2. Being held firmly from behind was comforting.”
“The dancing was romantic and the music was good!”
“I wish I could feel this way all the time!”
“Still feeling bliss two days later”